Finding love in Switzerland Why is it so hard?! Jennifer Davies and Ana Maria Montero investigate. You're single and successful.
You dress well and know what wine to order. You moved to Switzerland because you love the idea of taking on new challenges and adventures. You've got serious form, for goodness sakes! Then why doesn't your love life follow suit? She's 28, blond and tall and has come out of a long term relationship. She's been looking for love for nearly a year and says it has not been easy.
Americans don't take themselves too seriously and have no problem flirting. There you are used to guys approaching you and you can easily strike up a conversation with anyone.
That means, as a woman you have to be more assertive and overt to talk to a guy as he's usually with his friends. She believes that the attributes that make Charlotte such a 'catch' are typical of international singles in affluent nations; yet more and more people in countries like Switzerland are finding it difficult to find love, often right up until later life. Lawson-Botez pinpoints two reasons: According to the Swiss government's figures last year in , expatriate lovebirds are well represented.
Some 35 percent of marriages were between a Swiss and a foreigner and Navigating the services and events on offer for love-seekers all over the country is a certainly a task to be reckoned with. Aside from the ubiquitous online dating sites, there are supper clubs, speed dating, dating apps, and a myriad of singles events based on your interest or subculture in music, art, books or food. And then there are the stalwart favourites, which nowadays seem steeped in nostalgia.
Newspaper 'lonely hearts' and now online personal ads on newspaper sites have, perhaps surprisingly, remained as popular as ever, with papers across the country reporting significant numbers placed every week. Yet no matter which method you choose, many couples who have met here say you won't meet a significant other until you truly examine how you come across to a potential partner.
She says that his very straightforward approach won her over. Perhaps I was too flexible on this point. My partner was very direct and I met his criteria and that's why he wrote me a fantastic first email! But they have to ask themselves what have they done to achieve their goal of finding a partner? We have to engage with our environment; to unplug from our iPhones, look around us, smile and make eye contact with people.
Sure, they appreciate women who are smart and successful, however they say she needs to look, feel and act feminine. Most importantly men want someone who makes them feel good. They are, in many respects, much more open.