Often times we want to overlook things that stand out as red flags, thinking that maybe this person will be different in real life. When in reality, red flags that you spot now mean there are way more to come. Finding a good match though online dating is just a matter of weeding out the bad ones to shine light on the good ones.
Today we are going to learn to art of decoding an online profile. If they tell you that their last relationship was full of drama, remember that it takes two to tango. Trust me, this person thrives on the excitement and commotion that a middle-school relationship brings. There is a likely probability that this person sees the world through a jaded lense from being hurt in the past. Until that person finds peace, their relationships will be built on a foundation of mistrust.
His profile is written in one, long run-on sentence. Punctuation and spelling can separate the men from the boys. The way a person expresses him or herself in writing says a lot about who he or she is. A professional person who is educated is going to take the time to write full sentences like an adult. What the photos tell you Pay close attention to… A photo that looks too good to be true It probably is… A simple Google Image Search proved that the guy I was talking to was using fake photos to pretend he was some professional rock star.
It also proved he was not to be trusted. Photos hiding their face or their eyes Speaking from a psychological standpoint, this is a tell tale sign that this person is hiding more than just their looks. The same selfie over and over Now, this red flag can go two ways.
If every photo is of him in his car on the way to work, that might just mean he is really busy and a little boring.
But if all of his photos are half-naked bathroom mirror selfies, that could very well show where his priorities lie. Look for a man with some substance and diversity in his life. Message me back if you have any interest in chatting. Luckily, the guy sent me the same message three months later, confirming that it was not even close to sincere. There are men out there that copy and paste the same message to multiple women.
An easy way to catch this is to see if the message indicates anything about you. Did he actually read your profile or message you wanting to get to know you?
Which one do you prefer? The second message shows that this person is an actual adult. Any guy that compliments you on your lips, body, or comes up with some sweet talking line of wanting to see how you move is looking for quantity, not quality. Immediately Offers Up a Phone Number Within the first few messages, you are just getting acquainted with the other person.
Is he really looking for someone special? Or does he just give his number out to everyone? The number one thing you want to look for in an online dating profile is sincerity. They say what they mean and mean what they say. Red flags online are like those bad feelings in our stomach that we get in real life. Always trust your instincts, because they are probably right. With the duds out of the way, you can move on to the men who are truly worth your time.
Like Melissa Schreiber Melissa is a lover of love, writing, and pretty things. An experienced online dater, Melissa understands how dating sites are the modern day matchmakers.