Alex, I really appreciate your advice and have listened to your CD over and over again. We have great communication, great attraction, share the same values, have fun together, etc. Anyway your help would be greatly appreciated: Jill Goodness gracious, Jill!
Dear readers — kindly keep it under words, willya. The goddess does not fear! You get more of what you focus on. How did that ever happen? Am I going to drive him away? The goddess does not whine! However, the goddess can get lonely. She does crave companionship and connection — sometimes more than her man. So call him when you feel like calling him.
Can you be comfortable with your needs without being needy? Also, guys love their freedom. So here are some quick guidelines on getting your guy on the line: In the early stages of courtship, you want to let yourself be pursued. Human beings are phenomenally good at noticing deviations from a baseline.
In other words, create a baseline according to your needs. So he will want to hear from you. And the extra call may count against you. So go with your needs first. Notice how in both Scenario A and Scenario B, the ladies have called their men 4 times in a 5-day stretch. But the fourth call in Scenario A is more likely to be welcome than the one in Scenario B. Because of the way expectations are set. So the extra call is more likely to count against. If you had a bad day and you really want to talk to your guy, call him.
Guys actually like having a chance to cheer you up — it makes us feel useful. If you still need to talk to people about your woes, distribute the pain amongst your girlfriends.
And for girlfriend talk, use your girlfriends. Two ironclad rules about texts and emails: