Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. And let's be honest, it is important to get it right. I've found it helpful to think about your profile rather like a cross between a CV and a great piece of PR. Does that sound tough? Well, if you want to stand out from everyone else online then it's well worth spending some time thinking about what you want to say and how you want to come across to potential dates. It's not about making things up but it is about thinking creatively.
It's about showing rather than telling. Nobody wants to read yet another profile about loving country walks, watching films curled up on the sofa, having a good sense of humor With a good few years dating experience behind me and now with the wonderful job of helping people create an Irresistible Dating Profile these are the dos and don'ts of profile writing that I've learned. The Dos Facts not fiction -- if you are a couch potato don't talk about your fitness schedule Do be happy to stand out -- celebrate your unique qualities.
Be interesting -- what's the most interesting thing about you? Be succinct -- not quite Twitter-like but make your profile snappy. Be specific -- instead of saying 'enjoy Friday nights out in the bar' say 'Friday evenings I can be found enjoying Cabernet Sauvignon with my oldest friends, catching up on each other's latest adventures.
Be different -- share your unique hobbies or leisure activities. Free diving, growing bonsai trees or burlesque dancing Be playful with your username and headline -- create a hook. You want possible matches curious to know more. Do share some of your values -- talk about those things that are important to you in life, you're more likely to attract those who are compatible. Make sure you're in a great frame of mind before you write your profile -- play your happy music and wear your lucky t-shirt.
Give details -- If you say you love music, say which band and when you last saw them. If you love cooking say why and who inspires you. If you love gardening say how it makes you feel You get the picture? The Don'ts Don't be shy and uncertain about yourself.
Go easy on the self deprecation. Don't tell lies, however minor because you will be found out! And a relationship that begins with a lie will not recover. If you're 43 don't say you're Don't make demands on the type of person you're looking for Don't start a sentence with, "you must be Don't be a victim. Don't badmouth your ex and don't talk about dating disasters.
Don't TELL what a cool person you are. Instead SHOW by sharing some great stories of adventures or a snapshot of your life. Don't start each sentence with "I" Mix it up a little. Instead of "I love cycling and went to Paris to watch the final stage of the Tour de France. Being surrounded by so many likeminded people was inspiring.
It's not attractive Don't go overboard on exclamation marks, emoticons. You're not a teenager. Don't be afraid to say what you want. Looking for a life partner? Don't be lame -- 'my friends made me sign up', 'I don't know what to write', 'my character? Don't know really but my friends say I'm fun to be around' If you use these as pointers when you're writing your profile you will stand out I love that I now get time with amazing people guiding them to creating a stand out dating profile.
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