Pleasing a woman is an art form — one that you should always be working to grow and evolve. Sure, you may have a few key sex moves down that are standout hits and do the trick to get her going. But anything that becomes routine tends to lose it's edge pretty quickly — and that goes doubly for your sex life. The good news is that there are plenty of hotspots on women's bodies that you likely haven't stimulated to their full potential — the female erogenous zones.
What exactly are those, you ask? As far as lady parts go, you're probably familiar with the obvious erogenous zones that fall under this category — like her clit and nipples. But there are a few other surprising places that make the list — her inner thighs and lower back, to name a few.
We asked experts and real women to weigh in on the top female erogenous zones. From why these parts are extra sensitive to suggestions for stimulation and even some products that'll help take things up a notch, here's your guide to women's ten favorite spots to be touched. Ears There's a reason why having someone whisper in your ear gives you goosebumps. Ears have several nerves that feel extra good when stimulated through both sound and touch.
And that goes doubly when you're hearing the voice of someone you love, just FYI. Jess O'Reilly, Astroglide's resident sexologist. Doing so creates build up of what's to come, acting as powerful foreplay before the two of you even get naked. If you're bold enough, you can even pull this move in public to get her going for what's to come later. What Real Women Say: I was a few drinks in, and as things got going I started to make a lot of noise.
He whispered in my ear, telling me 'Shhhh. Then he bit my ear as a sort of 'punishment,' for not quieting down, and it pushed me over the edge. We didn't get caught — but if we had it would have been worth it. Inner Thighs What makes this spot erogenous is the sheer fact that it's positioned so close to the clit.
Touching the area right near her most sensitive spot makes the inner thighs an ideal place to tease. Get both thighs involved by caressing them one after the other. Then, while holding both legs up, softly stroke along the back of each leg starting with her calves running to her thighs and rear.
To take these sensations further, jessica drake , adult film star and author of the Guide to Wicked Sex series suggests a warming massage gel. Whenever we're out somewhere together and, admittedly, have been drinking, he always slips a hand in there, but will continue talking about something completely mundane, like the weather, all while keeping eye contact with me. Whenever he pulls this he knows it means he's getting lucky once we're back at home! Feet Don't knock it until you've tried it — as long as your partner is into it.
Then with permission, lick and suck for pleasure. This may not be for everyone, but don't yuck someone's yum. To amplify your foot massage, Dr. McGough suggests having a vibrator like this one act as double duty.
Especially if I come home from work and he sees that I wore heels that day. He just knows it's on. Clitoris The obvious one, but most definitely worth talking about. Especially since you may not know about the science behind how it works. O'Reilly, "the same pathway that carries information to the brain from the penis. It serves only one function: As long as you're going about it the right way, of course. First off, you'll need to make sure her clitoris is plumped up and ready to be touched.
To make these movements even more pleasurable, White suggests exploring the lube formulas designed specifically for the clit like this variety pack. Some women like a lighter touch while others prefer something more blunt. The cooler temperature gently rubbing my clit gets me off every time — no matter how often he pulls this move.
Navel Prepare to have your mind blown. O'Reilly says using your tongue to stimulate the area to reap the maximum benefits. McGough says that you can also get the lower stomach involved for an added effect.
If you press down as you circle up it will cause the tissue to pull tight and gently tug on clitoris along with everything else. But what ended up happening was that I felt it in my clit.
Now we do it on purpose. Lower Back It's no accident that sensual dances like the Salsa or Tango call for the man to place has his hand on the woman's lower back. There are plenty of nerves in that area, extending down to a woman's butt cheeks. O'Reilly says she has even worked with women who can reach climax when this spot has been touched the right way. Since you'll want to start light here, White says that an oil that matches that same airy consistency like this formula from Stella is the way to go.
I like it when my partner uses his mouth there, and drags his lips along it while grabbing both my butt cheeks really hard. Nipples The one you've all been waiting for, fellas. Aside from being connected to nerves that make touching them extra pleasurable, nipple stimulation also helps women reach orgasm. In fact, some ladies can get off from just nipple play alone. But be sure to keep in touch with your partner and take things slow at first, since this area is extra sensitive.
For next-level nipple play, Dr. Van Kirk suggests trying out a nipple teaser — like the one used in Fifty Shades of Grey. When the build up and release finally came and went I was hooked on nipple play forever. It's still one of my favorite things. Neck The phrase 'breathing down your neck' usually has a negative connotation. But when the right person is dedicating their efforts to gently blowing on this extremely erogenous spot, the results can be mind blowing. The vagus nerve, packed with sensory fibers, runs along this area as well.
Consult any romantic 90's music video, and you'll see that neck stimulation and candles pretty much go hand in hand. Van Kirk suggests lighting one to set the mood, like this hemp seed massage candle, which does double duty for ambiance and as a hot massage oil. Head Scalp If you've ever treated yourself to having your hair washed when getting a trim, you know just how good a scalp rub can feel.
Stubbs, which makes it a great erogenous zone. Anything you can do to add more subtle vibrations or sensations will make this experience even more incredible. Your partner will be feeling tingles in no time. I'm a lucky girl. Lips Kissing feels awesome duh. But you probably don't know the science behind why. The skin on your lips is more sensitive than on most parts of your body — over times more sensitive than the skin on your fingers, for starters. There's more you can do to your woman's lips than just kiss them.