Share this article Share The volunteers, taking part in the study in Edinburgh, were encouraged to hold hands, gaze into each other's eyes, and whisper secrets to each other, according to the Daily Telegraph. When questioned at the end on their feelings, 45 per cent of those who had 'acted in love' wanted to see each other again - more than double the average rate of 20 per cent.
Just as people feel happier when they force their face into a smile, so pairs of people behaving as if they find one another attractive became emotionally close. People are always going about positive thinking when this suggest positive action is just as valid. We had go around pulling couples apart. He has interviewed more than couples in arranged marriages to assess their strength of feeling and studied his findings against more than 30 years of research into love in Western and arranged marriages.
His work suggests that feelings of love in love matches begin to fade by as much as a half in 18 months, whereas the love in the arranged marriages tends to grow gradually, surpassing the love in the unarranged marriages at about the five-year mark. The connection felt by those in arranged marriages is said to be around twice as strong.
This means they are more likely to commit for life — and to stick together through rocky patches. Those who marry for love, on the other hand, tend to be blinded by passion and so overlook these crucial details.
Research suggests that these relationships grow stronger over time When the going gets tough, they are more likely to view the situation simply as a natural end to their romantic dream — a way of fate telling them something is wrong with the relationship.
With soaring divorce rates and record numbers of single-parent households in the West, researchers suggest it is time to rethink the Western approach to love.
I do not advocate arranged marriages but I think a lot can be learned from them. In the West, physical attraction is important. But people must be able to distinguish lust from love. Strong physical attraction is very dangerous, it can be blinding. But in arranged marriages, the commitment is very strong. It brings them closer. They are determined to make it work. They do their homework on their characteristics, their values, morals and life goals.
We have a very romantic view of marriage. Theirs is more pragmatic. Speed dating study suggests acting like you are in love can lead to the real thing - so is this why arranged marriages work?