Tweet on Twitter Before I start on the lessons I learned about dating a single dad, let me give you a bit of history about me. In early , after almost 10 years of marriage, I found myself divorced, single, in my mids and gasp!! When I finally decided that I was ready to date again, I had this expectation that dating in your 30s was going to be just like dating in your 20s. Boy, was I wrong, and what a smack into reality I received! Not to mention, you are both employed in some way or another and have a multitude of life, family and work commitments to work around.
While dating, I met and spent time with a few single dads and some single guys with no children. Let me tell you, I quickly learned that the single dads were, in general, the best guys I met. They were kind, patient, considerate, and frankly, not self-centered jerks. Their lives were bigger, happier and full of good stuff. So, by the time I met Jason, I had scoured the internet looking for helpful advice for single, childless women dating a single dad.
I read a lot about being a single guy dating a single mom. It was sort of helpful, but not. It was a really lonely feeling. I met Jason, and any loneliness I had vanished. I knew it on our first date.
You might not even be number two on the list. Number one on his list is his child. Children come first, always. Respect his commitment to his kids. And, if you are OK with that, and understand his commitment, he will respect you and be willing to give more of his time to you. Parents are super protective of their kids think about your mom and dad.
It means that you are important enough to him, to start including you with his family. This is a sign that he is ready to take his relationship with you to a new level. You leaving means that you leave him AND his kids.
There is another woman well, most of the time This is one thing that I struggled with at the beginning, because jealousy is my special type of crazy.
If he wanted to be with her, he would be. Second, despite his relationship with her or how she treats you, be kind and respectful to his ex. No one says you have to like her, but kindness from you will go a long way in building a pleasant and respectful relationship. Not to mention, it just makes life so much easier when things get really serious. Treat his kids kindly. As your relationship with your man grows, perhaps your role will look more parent-like.
Go with the flow. Let your relationship with your guy and his kids grow in its own time and way. Be patient and take your time, grow at the pace and in the way that is best for everyone.
This is sure to create a happy life, and hopefully a long relationship. I had a lot to learn, I still do. We just got married, so I must have done something right, but I can tell you, I did a lot wrong. And there were tons of things that I never expected when I started dating a single dad, but it has been an amazing adventure.
Single, childless and dating a single dad? What advise do you have to add? Tamara Moon aka my wife.