Even in , most bisexual men choose to be discreet about their sexuality for a variety of reasons. But when Buell realized that his prominence in the paranormal research field, not to mention the fact he is quite public about his religious beliefs, meant he might be able to open some eyes about the issue of bisexuality, he knew he had to speak up.
The book seems to be mostly about your experiences dealing with the paranormal and your experiences on the show. What made you decide to discuss being bisexual in it? Paranormal investigations is really just a way for looking for God and looking for those questions. In the book I kind of talk about my struggle with faith and religion, particularly the Catholic faith. Obviously … growing up I come from South Carolina; this stuff was especially taboo, let alone homosexuality, bisexuality, lesbianism.
When did you realize yourself that you were attracted to both men and women? When I started to become more self-aware about it, I would say maybe in my mid-teens. She kind of approached me about it and asked, you know, if I was bisexual and I said yes. Religion needs to change for us. Homosexuality and bisexuality are not a sin.
Who wants to wake up and be beaten up or be called names? It was scary to come out. My family is very old-fashioned and conservative. My mom was obviously way more supportive and my stepfather, who really helped raise me, I was really worried about him being judgmental since he comes from a very old, traditional way of thinking.
He was just beyond supportive and that really just made me feel great. I was like, wow. You have dated both men and women in your life? Mostly the gals, but yes. It seems like so few men still come out as bisexual and it seems like even fewer men who primarily date women do so. Why do you think so few bisexual men come out?
Which shirt are you wearing today? But that part is more of their secret part, that they may date a girl but then they have something on the side with a guy. They want to live a straight lifestyle. It was so funny because they got upset when somebody started dating a girl or something like that.
Do they tend to be other bi guys? How does that work for you? I tend to like, I guess, more masculine guys. Some athletes, some swimmers, someone on the football team, frat guys to people who are a little more effeminate. I just go wherever. What I was driving at was, if you have mostly straight friends, it seems like it would be harder to find guys to date.
These are just my theories. My schedule makes it really hard, but I just want people to be themselves. Are you interested in getting married and having kids? Does that depend on the gender, or are you interested in settling down someday either way and having kids? Dad was in the military so he was gone a lot so I really feel like I played a major part in raising them, taking them to school, dressing them, helping them do their homework. She went from being a teen mom to putting herself through college and now owning her own company, so it was stressful when we were young.