This book is one of them. It was literally thrown at me by my helpful roommate one dark day when my romantic despair was so intense it was almost bending the light around my head. I did my sincere best to bracket that noise and come at it fresh and open to new ideas and experience, figuring I could just take the good and laugh at the bad 1.
See, humans and human connections and humanity in general are deeply important to me both concretely and conceptually, kind of replacing capital-G God in my little cosmology 2. Human interaction more often than not leaves me feeling fried and drained and in desperate need of several hours of solid solitude. But one-on-one the task of weaving my emotions into the immediate experience that I share with another concrete human being is a different beast altogether.
But enough about me 6. This particular book opens 7 by jarring you to get your attention, the first page having a big READ ME title and the rest of the intro spent mostly mocking you for being so weak as to mindlessly follow orders.
This is gimmicky and dumb. The military con- and de-notations are definitely intentional. No reading ahead, no skipping out on assignments. There are a few fields for you to fill out answers to questions, some good what are your strengths and goals in life and some bad explain with detail exactly how you will suffer if you fail to change your broken ways.
The calendar is supposed to take you from the zero at which you start to getting a date, defined as any agreement to meet with a woman after first meeting her as a stranger. The author goes over Opening, Demonstrating Value, Disqualifying i.
There was indeed some positive and good advice to be found, such as making human interaction about enriching other people rather than satisfying some desperate need of yours for sex and affirmation Also worth attention is the idea of just having fun wherever you go, bringing value and positive-vibes into your own life and into the lives of others no matter what the ups and downs of what happens to you over the course of any given evening.
The good advice is vague and can be found from other more-robust sources. What makes this book less-robust is the lengthy digressions on NeuroLinguistic Programming, Astrology, Psychic readings, and Evolutionary Psychology. The Missions involved a lot of this, explicitly telling you to go out and engage girls about, say, how the rings on their fingers predict the planets they were born under and the personality implications thereof, etc.
What did I learn? It kind of inspired that kind of reaction i. Not here, not anywhere, not ever. For better or for worse I think rawness and openness and serious-togetherness are all we can really hope for - some beautiful people live this lovely life effortlessly, and the rest of us can only try. I tend to come away with a better understanding of my ideas, of the ideas of my enemies, and with a deeper appreciation for how someone like me might conceivably believe something horrible like that.
I think atheism has conceptual consequences that my old New Atheist movement glosses over and ignores basically keeping God but stripping it of its personality , but it the movement remains a step rather than a leap in a good atheistic direction. Gender-reference is a real head-clutcher and as a creature of almost-maximal privilege 4. Hearing that word used makes me want to gather a crowd and publically push my thumbs into the offending vocal chords.
As half-alluded to somewhere around the main text 6. But man will it be fun. This, to me, is the single hardest part of being in public. For all the male bitching and moaning about having to deal with huge amounts of rejection from women it seems also and even more-so true that the acts of selection and rejection take their own heavy emotional toll, especially when some guys will do literally anything to provoke a response from you.
Extra points for the word "metafuckery". Plea Independent of the book under consideration, this review is fantastically entertaining in its own right.
Please continue being awesome. Chill the f out man, Jesus I could only get through about two paragraphs of that blabbering meandering crap. It's to learn how to change the course of an interaction without making the other person uncomfortable. The dictionary definition of 'reject" is 'to refuse to accept.
Do you feel an emotiona Some notes: Do you feel an emotional sting? But for most people it is different, and here's why: When the gum is rejected, we think the person doesn't want the gum. But when we extend and invitation and get rejected, we think she doesn't want us.
She's known us only for a short while. She's practically a complete stranger. She doesn't know how great we are, the way our friends and family do. Why do we value her opinion over theirs? Next time you see someone you want to talk to, open your mouth and say the first thing that comes to mind.
As long as your comment or question isn't rude or hostile, you may be surprised by how difficult it is to get solidly rejected. If they feel you're not respecting or acknowledging them, they'll try to end the interaction.
Don't begin by apologizing; "starting a conversation this way makes you sound insecure at best and like a panhandler at worst. You can get opinions, start a conversation. If you catch yourself saying a situation was impossible, the guys were jerks, or the woman was just a 'bitch,' then you're wrong. It's always your fault. And that's a good thing, because it means you're in control. Even though you may be chasing her, disqualification turns the tables and makes her want to chase you.
What they don't realize is that they're losing points simply by submitting to the test. One was relationships, another was spirituality, and a third was animals. He just told me he knows kung fu. Why do you think he would say that to me out of the blue? A friend of mine taught me that the best way to butt into a conversation is to give someone something to hold. And I wanted to test it out.