We met in highschool and we've had a pretty rough relationship over the course of 2 years. At the beginning of our relationship, we established that we had some differences in what we believed in, but she generally believed in the idea of Christianity where I'm more of a progressive Christian. Since then, she's taken multiple philosophy classes and now anthropology and she's under the impression that we've evolved from a common ancestor and even though she hasn't explicitly stated there isn't a god, her attitude is as such.
I don't have a problem with what she believes in. I realize she's more educated than me in that regard and she's come to her own conclusions and I absolutely respect that. I don't force my beliefs on her. I don't tell her she's wrong or anything of that nature. I don't talk about the subject because I realize that the moment I say "well I personally disagree In reality, I'm just discussing my viewpoint so she has an understanding of where I'm at. So last night, we got into a shit ton of fights that eventually led to the topic of religion.
When I came out to my car, my girlfriend texted me and was waiting for me to surprise me. She realized I had a little bit of alcohol and she get super upset. Whenever I asked about her day it was "fine, good, or okay. I might have a beer once every days. I don't have time to drink and whenever I do, I definitely can't afford to get drunk. Anyways, she tells me that I'm drinking too much and I tell her "it was only tasting the beer they had.
It was only like half a bottle! I felt that was a bit over top and she thought it was absolutely logical. So we go get some drive through food and we chit chat a bit. We start going to her house and that's when she brought up religion.
She was at first telling me about her anthropology class and how she was interested in the origins of humans and how we've evolved over the years into completely new beings.
I told her that was cool and I'm glad she enjoyed the class. Then she asked for my opinion and I told her that I really didn't believe in macro evolution. I believe that organisms can evolve via the mutation of DNA, but I don't believe a separate species could come out of it. I also explained what I though about similar bone structures found in animals and she didn't like the answer to that either. Then she got personal about it started asking me about citing sources and that "You didn't go to college so you don't really know better" sort of idea.
Then she pulled out the age old atheist argument "you were raised in that culture. You don't believe anything else because you haven't been taught anything else. You are now close minded because of that and refuse to see anything logical. I'm not admitting that I know ALL of the answers, but I've looked already and developed my opinions based on what I've read. I explained that to her and she started asking me to cite sources again. Bear in mind I haven't researched this topic for over years, so I'm not gonna pull up something out of my ass.
It ended up with me saying "okay I'm wrong. I'm sorry I fought with you about this. What the absolute fuck?! I remained respectful and thoughtful of her viewpoints yet she wants to use personal attacks and general disrespect throughout the entire conversation to make her feel right.
I don't care if you're a Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Athiest, or you believe in fucking Santa Clause, I'm going to respect what you believe in regardless of how silly it may seem to me!
Anyways, then she said something along the lines of "I don't know how we are going to be together if you don't believe in the same thing I do. I can't come home from work to tell you about how a patient is doing and what exactly the biology is from that point because you're too closed minded.
I still feel that cut this morning. Anyways, then we finally got off the subject of religion and went to talking about how our days went and I got the same one liners. I asked her if there was anything wrong and she said that there was. She brought up my work situation. Now I'm currently a barista at Starbucks. I just got partner of the quarter and I'm looking at a promotion in the summer. I'm also looking at taking another part time supervisor position for Chick Fil A when they open up their new store in a couple of years.
She thinks that I'm on a path to failure and that I need to be something other than a "burger flipper. She told me I'm irresponsible for staying with the same people for so long. I would agree if it were like 10 years, but I literally haven't been at Starbucks but for like 6 months!!!
What she seems like she expects is for me to automatically be a store manager after working there a year. She told me that she's not going to want to work through financial hardship because I'm in the position. She told me that I shouldn't settle for being a barista till the day I die and that I need to go out and find a big boy job. I've never been insulted more in my fuckin life! I've done everything I can to move up in the company.
I'm working hard and I've been promised a promotion sometime in the summer. I honestly can't fathom why she's on my back for this.
Not to mention, Starbucks pays complete for tuition which would get me back into college and they have healthcare that's cheap and amazing. I feel like this is my best bet right now!
Instead, she's tearing me down making me feel like I'm not making a good decision. I just feel like she doesn't understand the grind of working a long time to gain trust so you get promotions. Anyways, this argument ended on an unresolved note and we went to sleep for the night. My girlfriend and I have our differences when it comes to religion and different viewpoints involving MUCH more than simple philosophy.
She doesn't seem interested in being around someone who doesn't agree with her and I don't like that she disrespects my viewpoint. Do I need to break up with her? Is there any avenue I can take in attempt to iron this out?