I am a busy professional and during the interview I described my ideal match as a gentleman who is tall 5'10" or more , and who has a similar educational background to myself college educated with a successful career. I was told there were many people in the Sacramento area and that this would be an easy and fun process.
I was reassured multiple times about how each candidate is carefully interviewed and a detailed and thorough background check is performed to verify education and work information as well as marital status. I was told that the service does not accept membership from people who misrepresent their information e.
I was even warned against using online dating sites where, I was informed, there is a high percentage of married people pretending to be single. I signed up in March My first date had completely dissimilar backgrounds.
While he was tall, we shared no common interests or educational background. He is lifetime military and a wonderful guy but there seemed to be no reason to put us together other than checking off one of the "date" boxes. My second match was described to me as 5'7", which I noted to the matchmaker was below my height threshold.
The matchmaker asked me to trust her and she reassured me that he would be an awesome match for me. After I spoke with the gentleman by phone, I had serious concerns and I called Ashlee back. Once again, she asked me to trust her and reassured me that she had my best interests at heart.
My date was at most 5'5" tall and, alarmingly, he was still married he told me that he signed up with this service just before serving his wife with separation papers. As we ate, he went on to talk about the litigation he was in and how it was costing him a huge sum of money.
My third date was actually a good match and we went on several dates. It was a great experience. The fourth date was described as tall, having an engineering degree and being in great shape but when I went on the date, I discovered a very different picture.
He had not graduated from college and he was actively struggling with the death of his wife that had occurred less than 3 months before our date.
My experience has left me deeply questioning both the screening actually performed as well as anything more than a random mix and match alignment process.
Three of the four dates" that were hand selected for me didn't actually meet the two criteria and two of them were honestly inappropriate. When I mentioned this to the matchmaker, I was told that since I had "accepted" the dates even though they did not match the criteria we agreed to they counted towards my 8 "date" contract and I was quoted the terms and conditions section.
I would have been far better off with an online dating site and using modern internet searches myself.