This topic contains 16 replies, has 1 voice, and was last updated by Viewing 17 posts - 1 through 17 of 17 total Author August 27, at 8: We had an amazing connection and chatted for five whole hours in a row. We did get quite personal about our lives and he mentioned the split to his wife 2 years ago and that he had not met anyone or had any form of relationship or even one night stand since.
We were getting along so well that we decided to meet in person the following day. I waited all day yo hear from him. Sent him messages on whatsapp in the afternoon but his phone was off. He was active on whatsapp at 7. I did not reply straight away I was miffed and disappointed and about half an hour later realised he had blocked me on whatsapp!
Sent a message through tinder and a text but he was not connected and got zero reply. And he has not connected once to tinder since. I am at a loss because although it was only one very long chat, I felt really sad after being blocked. He seemed so intent on meeting up… And nothing. August 27, at 8: August 27, at 9: He never had any intention of really meeting up with anyone. There are men out there like that. So you blew up his phone?
It is animal instinct to run when you are being chased. We had only been talking thirty-six hours and he must have texted and messaged me about sixty times, many of them not answered. That may not be the explanation. There definitely may be something shady on HIS end that would have stopped him from truly going through with meeting you no matter what. However, just a little constructive criticism that will help you moving forward in the future…never message a guy first at this stage.
Yes, I know that is ridiculously old fashioned and it seems like advice from the fifties, but men are wired differently than we are. There are exceptions, but most of them like to feel that they are the pursuer. Second of all, if you should happen to break number one, do not ALSO break number two…continuing to message someone when they are not answering you.
WAIT for them to answer. Not a turn on. Learning to interact with the opposite sex is like learning a new language. But I cannot do that with a guy I am seeing. To be more specific: I only sent him one message on whatsapp around 3. He has a wife or a girlfriend. Either way, you lost nothing, a cheater or someone with issues, August 27, at I am waiting to see if he is going to log into Tinder again, and to see if he does unmatch me… August 27, at It is a flakes paradise.
So many of them and i have had stuff like this happen so many times. You have to accept theres a load of losers out there who have no intentions whatsoever of dating, none. Yet they live on these websites and will come on strong and keen but not follow through. Its their problem and nothing to do with you so dont give it anither second of your time or energy.
Strangest thing ever i know. Made me realise that online dating is probably not for me although funnily enough this is how I met my ex husband back in the day, waaaay before Tinder! August 27, at I could care less if I met somebody. I think this attitude reeled in some really serious men that I felt extra bad for leading on. Take it all with a grain of salt.
He owes you nothing, and his inability to express that he screwed up and is probably unavailable is his problem not yours and not a reflection of your value. August 27, at 1: August 27, at 2: Alia, I understand, but are you going as far as saying you are after a relationship and staying 5 whole hours on a chat?
I was actually the first one surprised at how much it affected me! Which is why I now know Tinder is not for me. Thanks for your input guys, much appreciated. And it is for the best. You should be testing them too. Out of fifteen dates maybe one guy will work out for something. In my opinion it is obvious that this guy is in a committed relationship, there are many men out there on dating apps who have no intention on meeting or get cold feet, or maybe he met someone he got interested in but number 1 is more likely IMHO.
I also think that in your first post you said you sent him messages, this does not mean one message, even one is too many, he should be the one confirming plans. You pester him in the afternoon and then in the evening, he ran from the stalker.
Let the guy to lead and pursue you, for many men even one message would seem needy, more than one stalker. Interest level goes to 0 and boom he is gone.
You are the prize, let the men win you over and let many compete for you. You may not be ready to date. If you get this upset about a guy you chatted with once, how upset and needy will you get when say five dates go nowhere? But remember according to the rule of numbers sooner or later you will meet someone you like and that likes you as well. Grow tougher skin, online dating is not easy and there are many freaks out there too. But all we are going for are assumptions.
Who knows what happened. Maybe his mother died this morning. So that you can make this analysis yourself. We are in the age of choices. But it takes a lot more groundwork than it ever did. August 27, at 3: And I am sorry if I sounded like I painted men with a broad brush, not at all, all I meant is maybe one out of ten you can try a relationship with.
I also base this on personal experiences. I did online dating twice. I met many cool guys, maybe looking for fun but they were fun and enjoyed the chatting, meeting, some we remained friends with. There was the occasional freak but since I was on a more exclusive site I did not meet that many of those fortunately, some I still burst out laughing about when I think of them. I had a very positive experience actually. Many of my dates were a lot of fun. This is what I considered them. Most of those dates nothing came out of, I was simply not very interested.
I had one serious relationship resulting from round one but he was a player unfortunately. Second round, I decided to date someone from RL but again had a lot of fun, a lot of dates, mainly very positive experiences. I never fretted if contact ceased as I was just not that interested either and perhaps it was obvious.
Hard to find a match. I do have to admit that when I started the first time I was surprised that men disappeared sometimes but after the first two doing that I grew thicker skin and did not really care. Ah, yeah and I tried a third time briefly on a more general dating site and got a gazillion messages and most of those guys were no go even for a date and then I started dating my BF so I unsubscribed.
I still think that RL meetings have a higher success rate but it does not hurt to try online. Nothing wrong with that. Wow, a lot has changed since I was last on the dating scene which was ! Author Viewing 17 posts - 1 through 17 of 17 total Reply To: Did my Tinder match get cold feet? Mail will not be published required: You may use these HTML tags and attributes: