Online Dating Online dating tipping point: When should you meet in person? At what point do you stop messaging and take your flirtation out into the real world?
Studies have suggested that anything between 35 and 50 per cent of all couples in the UK, now meet via the web. Related Articles Online dating: How to meet each other's friends 09 Mar Of course, exchanging a barrage of emails — even phone calls or Skyping— can seem more secure. Put simply, how soon you meet will have a direct effect on your chemistry.
You could be consigning yourself to a disappointing date. No, according to American researchers, the tipping point comes between 17 and 23 days after the first message is sent. They conducted a survey of online daters and found that the longer they waited to meet a match in person, the more likely they were to feel let down.
What gives the study a ring of truth? That its lead researcher, Artemio Ramirez Jr. But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.
Often, you end up filling in the gaps. It happens all the time. Online dating is a fact finding mission The sooner you can assess whether those online sparks translate into real-life chemistry, the better. You can tell more about a person in half an hour, than weeks of emailing. Daisy Buchanan, author of dating guide Meeting Your Match agrees. It feels a bit more intimate.
One friend tells me that, if she has a positive feeling about someone, she gives them the details of her Facebook account and switches to messaging them away from the dating site.
And meet them you must. Many macchiatos maketh the match and not all of us are great in writing. As the study suggests, time waits for no match.
Well, there are things you can take away from it for next time. Were your expectations too high? Were they right for you —why not? Which of your needs did you think they might fulfil? Should you avoid people who make grammatical errors in their profile? You likely did nothing wrong. But answering these questions is a useful way to progress the process of online dating. Many match-making websites now have their own blogs, or guides advising you how and when to meet — among other tips — that you might find useful.
Go to parties, meet new friends and force yourself to speak to strangers — romantic potential, or not. It makes the prospect of arranging dates a lot less scary. Those 17 to 23 days of messages are just the first chapter in your story.