You may think your relationship is normal. But is it really? Use these loveless unhappy marriage signs to find out if you could actually be happier! By Alison Ricard A relationship is pretty predictable.
The subtle signs of an unhappy marriage A marriage or a happy relationship never falls apart for one reason. And even worse, at times, you may convince yourself that all relationships are doomed to mediocrity and self-satisfaction.
Do you believe in love or have you given up on finding it? A happy, loving marriage can give you a lot more. It can give you a more complete life. But when we have to introspect, all we have are blind spots spread over all our flaws. The beginning of the unhappy romance An unhappy marriage is the slow accumulation of annoyances, pain, bitterness, ego and miscommunication that burdens the romance. And each time one or both lovers choose to ignore the signs and avoid communicating what each of them really feel, the relationship is only bound to get closer to the end.
In reality, all the other reasons led you to the unhappiness. Unfortunately though, most of us never care enough to pick the little flaws and rework on the marriage.
You may accept them as a part and parcel of every relationship, but in reality, they can tear your marriage apart even before you realize it.
You should be happy to communicate with them and share all the pleasant and the sordid details of your life with them. Do you feel more comfortable talking to someone else outside the marriage about your secrets? It may start off as an emotional release, but it would eventually come in your way of marital bliss. There are a few relationships where the partners have no complaints about each other at all, because they completely understand each other and their individual points of view, and get along perfectly.
Over time, these little annoyances could lead to huge frustrations in your marriage. The 80 20 rule in marriage and your love life ] 3 You have needs. Almost all the time, you find ways to satisfy these needs yourself, be it sexual or emotional. But at the same time, you may constantly find yourself grumbling or whining within your own mind about how much better it could have been if your partner was more involved in satisfying your needs.
This is a contradiction to the earlier sign of an unhappy marriage, but this is a valid point too. Sometimes, two lovers just have different needs. So what do you do then? Do you compromise for the sake of your marriage or do you walk away?
Communicate with your partner and talk to your friends. If your needs seem justified, you have a right to expect it from your partner. If your needs seem to be high-maintenance, you need to decide what holds more value to you, your needs or your marriage. Falling out of love — Why it could be happening to you ] 5 Individual lives. Both of you lead individual lives. The 10 big problems in a relationship and how to fix it ] 6 Lusty minds.
You could be in a relationship with one person and still find yourself getting sexually attracted to someone else now and then. But do you talk about this little crush you have, or do you hide the secret, all the while spinning secret fantasies in your head? In a secure relationship, both partners talk about their crushes and sexual fantasies with someone else without really feeling awkward about it. How to sexually fantasize about someone else with your partner ] 7 Different life directions.
When two people come together in a marriage, they communicate with each other and their goals too start to align to form one common goal. But do you take your responsibilities too seriously and avoid looking beyond that? Do you believe that earning money for the family or looking after the house is the end of your responsibility?
But in reality, responsibilities in a relationship are a yardstick of reference, nothing more. If your partner wants to communicate with you or picks a flaw, think beyond your responsibilities. You expect too much from your spouse. You subtly pressurize them or undermine them by comparing other marriages or people.
You may think this would help your lover or spouse understand your wants better. The power of your words and how it can affect your partner ] 10 The blame game. Pointing a finger at your lover is easy. In a happy marriage, arguments do happen. But arguments are not used as a tool to inflict pain. An addiction can ruin any marriage, and end up leaving both of you bitter and angry.
And on the other hand, the other partner may feel helpless and depressed. Make an effort and deal with your addiction, by yourself or with professional help.
You may not realize it today, but your addiction could kill your marriage very soon. The reason behind why men are so addicted to porn ] 12 The ego. The ego is a powerful tool in marriage. In a marriage, the two people involved are a team. The few minutes of silent treatment or anger which will eventually fade is way better than years of disrespect and ego clashes.
The top 20 reasons for divorce that most couples overlook ] A loveless unhappy marriage is not worth experiencing. But if you think about it, it can all be fixed if you choose to fix it. All it needs is the initiative and the memory of the good times and the romance to bring all the love back into your loveless marriage. And if you are, communicate with your spouse. Liked what you just read? Alison Ricard loves sunshine, good books and contagious laughter.
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