Are you already dating or married to a truck driver? There are many unique issues you have to deal with when dating a trucker that do not arise when dating men in other professions.
There are actually support groups for people who choose this because of the level of difficulty involved. I love my trucker boyfriend and have been in this type of relationship for over a year now so I am sharing my viewpoint and experiences.
This is not written to encourage or discourage anybody but I am not going to sugar coat anything either. It is what it is, not the glamorous life. When my boyfriend and I started dating he was NOT a truck driver, but it started out as a long distance relationship anyway because he lived over 3 hours away.
After awhile he moved closer and then chose a local driving job. He injured himself doing that, was out of work for almost 2 years and then had to search for a job. Apparently, over the road driving was all he could find to do so he took a job and was gone almost immediately. After years of being with him daily I found myself alone.
I had mixed feelings about this new situation which included excitement, sadness, and soon resentment. I was left to figure out how to deal with being alone and the new challenges I faced, alone.
Truckers are gone most of the time which pretty much turns your relationship into a long distance relationship. It has also been compared to the life of a military wife. That alone is very uncomfortable for most people who want to be in a relationship to actually have someone around to enjoy life with.
That is until there is a cell signal issue and they are out of range. If most people ask their boyfriend what they did today they have many things to talk about and elaborate on.
You had better start enjoying learning about the truck they are driving and everything else about the industry because you are going to hear A LOT about it. Planning This is one area of being involved with a trucker that gets quite frustrating. If you like to make plans for specific things to do with your significant other that needs to be on certain dates such as concerts and other events, good luck with that.
Holidays This brings me to the next topic of holidays. Most people in relationships look forward to sharing the joys of holidays with the one they love. I have spent almost every holiday alone. My boyfriend was unexpectedly delayed for days on a trip that was right before Christmas so he ended up arriving on Christmas Eve. That was awesome, but it was a fluke thing and had nothing to do with purposely being home for the holiday. Very disappointing to say the least.
I have read not to discuss stressful things with truckers while they are on the road because their job is stressful enough and they are dealing with so much out there weather, sleeping in a truck, no home cooked meals, etc. Trust issues Trust issues will be magnified if you are in this type of relationship.
I have read many stories on trucker forums from girlfriends or wives of truckers. The majority of them have the same fears and doubts and wonder if their man is cheating on them. So, what do they do about that in this profession?
There are truckers with girlfriends in towns all over the country. Pretty convenient for them to just drop in, have sex and leave. Then there are what are called Lot Lizards-prostitutes that hang out at truck stops.
I have read complaints from women because they have no idea who their man is talking to throughout the day and night or what they are doing on their computers except for the women who have actually looked at the phone bill and their suspicions were confirmed.
My boyfriend says he is faithful and I have chosen to believe him. They rarely get out of the truck so they have an extreme lack of exercise. That mixed with the crappy eating habits leads to weight gain. They sleep at different times of the day and night depending on where they are going and what time they are scheduled to deliver. These are only very few of the things that my boyfriend complains about. Because of the this unhealthy lifestyle taking its toll, I have noticed a huge difference in him — physically, mentally and emotionally.
Truckers drive through inclement weather, park in unsafe areas and are in contact with many questionable people often. Staying connected There are things you can do to feel closer to your man when he is absent.
Your number one source of staying connected to this person is through your phone so I suggest that you have unlimited minutes and love having a phone attached to your ear.
I have learned to hold a phone in one hand while vacuuming, doing dishes, cooking, driving, shopping and juggling the rest of life, just to continue our relationship through the only way available.
We talk, text, email, occasionally Skype and play games with each other on our phones. The games are great. Join him If you have the opportunity, you can join him on the road for a trip every now and then.
You get to be with him more and actually experience what his days and nights are like such as eating, sleeping in a truck pretty much like camping , showering in a truck stop and being in a different state every day.
I did this once and absolutely loved it! I took lots of pictures and it was just awesome to get first hand knowledge of it all. On the one and only road trip I have taken with my boyfriend, we stayed at a rest area in Kansas for the night and I was awakened by a minivan on fire and blowing up just feet away from our truck. Now that scared the crap out of me! Stay Busy Find ways to stay busy as much as possible. The mind can play crazy tricks on you if given too much time to think.
Take up a new hobby. Join a church group. Surround yourself with friends and family, or just enjoy the solitude if you prefer. But, if you want daily affection and someone to snuggle up with at night, being in this type of relationship is not a good fit for you. When you are dating a trucker, you and your man live two separate lives and occasionally blend them. If you are already so in love with a truck driver this would be my case that you are willing to take what you can get whenever you can get it and are satisfied with that, then by all means be with him.
I learned to adjust to all of this after about 3 months. Of course there are often times that I miss him but now I actually enjoy the time to myself. Appreciate the little things. Focus on the good in each other and why you fell in love with this person to begin with and make every effort possible to work through the challenges. After all, love conquers all,…….