But when it comes to dating, we really do set ourselves apart. This is evidenced by the well-established fact that when any of your friends move abroad, they return, not with a souvenir, but with a ring. Chronic commitment-phobia issues be damned. It is the land of the perpetual grey zone, can't quite move forward with the relationship but you are caught in the snares of passionate torment all the same.
You are stuck in the metaphorical mud, and yet the carrot of true love seems A quote by Dante Alighieri about Lebanon's dating scene 1. The dating scene is "as small as a scorpion's" Subsequently, this scenario likely happened to you at least two or three times: Then the inevitable happens.
You add them on Facebook and you discover that you have at least 50 mutual friends. They are VERY likely your friend's ex, or your friend's friends ex.
So you are left with a choice that flashes before you like the neon lights on Jal el Dib highway: Commitment phobia Hat tip: We are left-wing, right-wing, religious, secular, laicite-on-steroids, progressive socialists, Islamists, Christian atheists, Muslim atheists, religious seculars, minority rights activists, civil rights activists It's just what happens when you live in a place that's heavy on discourse, and it's a good thing You have a first date, and the other person or you!
Mental acrobatics ensue to forge a bridge between your two beliefs. But it's not just our families that are the culprits. I beg of you to cease and desist. Sexpectations are a bit of a minefield Another byproduct of living in a country that breeds a wide and varied belief spectrum is that there is no prevailing attitude to sex. You broach the subject like a timid warrior in a jungle covered in darkness.
What if I offend her? I don't want her to think I'm sex-crazed. But here's the thing. You shouldn't be put off by it. See where your sexpectations connect and diverge, and decide whether to move forward accordingly.
Your over-worked and under-paid Before Anyone Else BAE gets a job offer from the petrol endowed Gulf, and you know they're going to take it. And you know you don't have it in you to keep them from leaving. Ain't nothing you can do about this, friends. It's the way of our mellenial anti-romantic existence. Closeting This applies to both gay and straight people in Lebanon.
Too many of us go about our already complicated romantic lives in dark corners, and away from the watchful eye of our Facebook friends. I sincerely hope that unquestioned traditions do not get in the way of your emotional path. You just have to find the ones worth suffering for.