Share this article Share At one point during this time, my father was on a plane and noticed a woman reading a magazine I was in. The woman turned to him with a look of pity. Gilmore Girls was at its peak then and I was getting interviewed a lot.
But over time, I felt increasingly vulnerable when I had to face these questions. Journalists seemed increasingly frustrated, and interviews became less about what project I was doing and more a thinly veiled reiteration of: Not for the first time, I wished there was someone to ask.
How to walk in heels! How to talk to US Weekly about your new or nonexistent relationships! I learned a few things fairly easily. Most films and TV shows have very long hours, and no one I know pulls pranks on set — except maybe George Clooney. Lauren at the Screen Actors Guild Awards in with her father Larry, and co-presenter and now partner Peter Krause I was once set up with an actor by my assistant. The actor wanted to meet me because he saw my face on a giant billboard on Sunset Boulevard — you know, the way everybody gets asked out!
While on location, I had a fun relationship with someone who revealed at the end of the movie that he had a girlfriend back home. I shook hands with a cute guy for the first time while presenting him with an award. Backstage, we had charming banter. I went out with him anyway! One thing I learned: Not surprisingly, none of the relationships that started during awards shows stuck. You know how before a party you clean up your house so that everyone thinks you live that way all the time?
You present the flowers-on-the-table, bed-always-made side of yourself first. When I started working with Peter on the TV series Parenthood, he made a lot of references to the fact that we were playing brother and sister.
Lauren with Friends star Matthew Perry, in But ultimately, our mutual wariness gave way without much effort — it just sort of happened. By the time Peter and I actually started dating seriously, I finally knew exactly how to handle myself and all my public-vs-private issues instantly melted away. Instead of making the public part of life easier, it was even more difficult. Now I actually had someone I cared about, which made me worry even more about protecting that person and our privacy.
This standoff lasted for a while, but eventually more people found out and I kept getting asked to talk about it. Somehow in the moment it felt too personal to also say his actual name. Ellen looked at me like I was insane.
Lauren with her partner Peter earlier this year A few months into dating, Peter and I planned a skiing holiday. I was always one of those East Coast kids who refused to button my jacket. But now I was dating someone who grew up in the Midwest, where cold is no joke and where being prepared to face the elements is just something a person does. Peter knows everything there is to know about outdoorsy things such as what to do if you see a bear. With the help of Peter, I stocked up on thermals.
On our ski trip, I was warm and dry. Now I take these items for granted. He just left it there. What does it mean? Should I text him about it? I was fine on my own, and so are you. But it can be hard when you feel ready for Happy Couplehood and you seem to have missed the train.
It might have been nice if he could have turned to me and said: In fact, it may already be on the way. This is an edited extract from Talking as Fast as I Can: A Year in the Life is on Netflix.