Women Beware — by American Retiree in Jamaica 8 years ago Written by John Casey Women, be very careful with your relationship with men in Jamaica and this holds true also with men meeting women. Jamaica is a country that is known for its friendly people. They can be seen everywhere you go, from the airport when you first land, to the resorts where you spend most of your time, and even in the craft markets. This friendliness attracts women from all over the world especially from the young, handsome, and well built Jamaican men.
But there is where the danger lies. I have learned through personal experience and feedback from my articles that too many women have fallen so hard for the lines of these men that they have blindly married what they thought was their knight in shining armor. The most dramatic example I can share with you is one my wife and I were very much involved in. Marcy and Todd, not their real names, met in Jamaica while having breakfast in one of the tourist restaurants. The relationship started very quickly and continued to go so strongly that Marcy would fly to Jamaica almost monthly, sometimes just for a weekend, to see Todd.
The more Marcy saw Todd the stronger her love for him grew. After several months of this long distance romance, they decided to get married.
I should point out that she was thirteen years his senior. He literally swept her off her feet. The plans were made. Marcy quit her prestigious position with a major law firm and moved to Jamaica bringing with her several hundred thousand U.
Together they built their dream home on property that Todd already owned with mostly her money. Marcy would be living in that home as a loving stay at home wife while Todd continued with his successful taxi operation at one of the hotels in Montego Bay. Then they bought a coaster bus which could hold about 40 passengers to be used as a daily bus service to and from Kingston.
They also bought a top of the line Toyota Mark II for her to use. Each vehicle was purchased with her money. Several months later, the relationship started to sour. Todd would call Marcy from the hotel frequently to tell her he had to take guests to Negril or some other strange story and would be very late coming home. Then the arguments would start between them. He was both physically and verbally abusive to her.
The two women hit it off from the beginning and became good friends. My wife particularly liked Marcy as she was the only American woman she had met up to this time. But during one of their phone conversations, it was apparent that Todd was becoming very controlling of her life. So much so Marcy had to account for every minute of every day. Marcy would have to hang up quickly before Todd saw her on the phone or there would be even more questions.
Incidentally, Todd is now married to the girlfriend he had before and during his marriage with Marcy. Another couple we know met in the U. She, too, gave up everything she had and came to Jamaica to marry him. He also became abusive but she was able to move away from him before she became another victim like Marcy. Two other women were forever sending money to Jamaica because their men said they needed cash for one emergency or another.
It seems they were both of the men were always having some kind of cash emergency. One of the women came to Jamaica and married her man.
Some of the men try to marry foreign women as a ticket off the island. Others just want the money that they can milk off of these women. Then there are those macho men who are just on an ego trip so they can brag to their friends about their foreign conquests.
On the other foot I know of one Jamaican woman who tried very hard to get an English man to marry her so she could move to the U. That is why I am writing this article.
Jamaican men have a bad reputation of being philanders. Some of them have several girlfriends and baby mothers on the side. I want every woman who comes to Jamaica to enjoy the talents of these smooth talking men to be very careful in getting too involved with them without stepping back and honestly evaluating the motives of these men.