We take a swipe on the wild side. The gentleman was listed as Orthodox and kosher, which is way too religious for my friend whose JSwipe account I was test-driving. With a swish he was gone. This wasn't even my own account on JSwipe, which has been described as the Jewish Tinder. JSwipe is neither the first nor the most recent Jewish dating app. It launched about nine months ago in timing with Passover because nothing says love like a story of slavery and eight days of eating a cracker that will ruin your digestive system.
Since then, the app has gained over , users in more than 70 countries, according to its founder. What was more fascinating to me is that both Orthodox and non-religious Jewish friends had been using it and talking to me about it in the past month. Although you can filter for only Jewish options on many dating sites, and even denominations of Judaism on others, JSwipe's layout somehow made it all easier. In addition, there was even a spot to mark whether you were kosher, which is actually a big deal if you really like bacon or, like me, expend too much energy attempting to resist it.
There are no Woody Allen-style stuttering neurotic attempts to lay out complicated religious philosophy or existential questions about the existence of God; here were quick yes-and-no markers to the Jewish lifestyle practices that could make or break a relationship. Unfortunately, yours truly couldn't get in on the fun. I actually downloaded the app last summer and was embarrassed because none of my friends seemed to use it.
It crashed a lot, and I gave up. Now it can't open on my phone due to what appears to be software incompatibility.
In my mother's most adorable and depressing comment on my dating life, she immediately offered to buy me a brand new iPhone for the sole purpose of letting me use JSwipe. I declined, but not because I didn't want to use JSwipe.
Within a few swipes, I was already feeling that burst of romantic optimism you need the first day of the Christian new year. Perhaps because I have always been Semitic-minded in my romantic preferences — hey there, James Deen, Paul Rudd, Skylar Astin Lipstein — but the guys on JSwipe seemed more attractive than the usual dating site bunch. A something with dark brown hair, showing off buff arms in a wifebeater with the insignia of Jewish fraternity flashed by on the screen and against my better judgment, I swooned a little.
At least since the Shtetl days when East European Jews would visit their local shadchan matchmaker to pair up singles in suitable matches, the people of the book have been obsessed with matters of the heart — sort of. Marriages were not so much about romance as making suitable pairs and making sure Jews stayed with Jews and kept the small and heavily persecuted population alive.
You didn't marry in isolation. Marrying another Jew was not just a personal simcha joy , but one for the community. One would think these same concerns would not influence Jews, especially Jewish millennials of who tend to identify less with Judaism than previous generations.
Cheat Sheet A speedy, smart summary of all the news you need to know and nothing you don't. You are now subscribed to the Daily Digest and Cheat Sheet. We will not share your email with anyone for any reason. According to the Pew Research Center , almost a full-third 32 percent of Jews born after describe themselves as having no religion, more than any other age group.
A solid majority of 58 percent of Jews who got married after chose a spouse outside the faith, compared to the 17 percent of American Jews who got married before Not only are we less governed by the traditional guilt and pressures to marry in the faith, but American society is less anti-Semitic and gentiles like marrying us, too, including some members of U.
And yet we keep devouring the ever-increasing array of Jewish dating apps and sites and Facebook groups--why? People have been trying to kill us for thousands of years. We've managed to survive, and I want to be a part of that tradition. I don't begrudge anyone who married outside the faith. I think in modern times interfaith marriages are important. But there's a ton of value for me in my background and my history, and losing it would be a shame. As much as interfaith couples say it doesn't happen, it does.
JSwipe definitely gives off less of a hookup vibe than others. Almost everyone I spoke to said they have used JSwipe because they are specifically not just looking for a booty call.
Sometimes, a tech glitch means you are prevented from looking at other users. My friend said she felt the same way, as if the technical issue was a subtle judgment that she had exhausted all the available Jewish men in Manhattan to no avail.
Ultimately, I came to peace with the fact it was a sign of bugginess especially since a few others complained to me about technical difficulties with the app , but JSwipe can make the Jewish singles world feel eerily small. It's a testament to the quality of the app. We are for anyone and everyone who celebrates Jewish culture and is interested in having that be a part of their lives now or in the future. However, he is hesitant to take too strong of an opinion on intermarriage, which is one of the biggest hot button issues in modern American Jewish society perhaps only rivaled by discussions on Israel and the Middle East.
However, Yarus acknowledges that the issue of increasing intermarriage rates gives a certain social mission to JSwipe, at least to him.