Which means that your insecurities, can actually be drawing insecure men back towards you. This is one-sided and not equal. And for any men reading here, this piece is obviously geared towards women. But understand that much of this works both ways and the roles can actually be reversed. It becomes a feeding frenzy of negativity. He needs to feel reassured and validated as a man, and she needs to feel accepted and worthy as a woman.
Are You the Perfect Victim? Insecure men generally tend to seek out women who are an empty vessel. Insecure men do not want to be challenged or questioned and they will eventually flee from strong women who are able to assert themselves. They prefer a woman who is very pliable and one who makes herself available all the time, forcing her to place her own life aside. Having that type of a woman makes an insecure man feel good about himself and more like a man.
They are the guys that, when challenged by other men verbally for their offensive behavior, either run away or throw a punch instead of providing a smart intellectual rebuttal because they have no good excuse for their behavior. These types are usually found wearing Affliction Clothing line tees and True Religion jeans with heavy white stitching, sporting a few tattoos, dig MMA, have a close buzz cut on the sides, treat dating like a sport and have dined on a plethora of steroids.
Insecure Men Tend to Exaggerate Stories Insecure men are the guys at the bar telling exaggerated stories of sexual conquests with the ladies, yet are never actually spotted with a living, breathing one by their side. Their Facebook page is a constant stream of party boy selfies with the occasional self-deprecating post geared towards garnering a ton of compliments for themselves.
Insecure Men Pull Stunts to Create False Appearances They are the guys that, when on a date with them, leave their phone out on the table and are all too proud to openly inform you and constantly remind you that women all over the place are chasing them down. Because the needs of insecure individuals are so very hefty, many times it takes more than one individual to fulfill them. Insecure Men Move FAST In the beginning, they lay it on thick and heavy , telling you everything they think you want to hear, zipping you into the bedroom and a relationship with lightning speed.
Moving too fast is a big red flag. They're not good at consistency though or maintaining any of this initial "flowery" behavior, which is why it's important to make a man repeatedly prove himself to you for a consistent length of time.
The flakes won't be able to keep it up and they'll soon run once they realize they'll have to work to win you over. Insecure Men are Emotionally Unavailable and Have a Shallow Orientation Their inner world will rarely, if ever, be anything you get a peek into. Their primary goal is to get their own needs met, much like a child, which usually has a shallow orientation focused on nothing but primal, sexual needs and survival — and nothing deeper than that. And if you attempt to make them become that, they are not above spinning that back onto you somehow and making you feel guilty for asking too much of them, and not accepting them for who they are and what they have to offer — which is nobody with nothing to offer other than a mere presence in your life.
The Manipulation Insecure men and women are incredibly manipulative. Cousin Eddie is an insecure guy, constantly attempting to impress Clark and overcompensate in ways that ultimately make him appear as a buffoon.
They are relationship jumpers who consider 3 and 5 month flings honest to goodness real relationships. Loyalty is not their thing and they will start to be dismissive of you entirely not that they were ever really that attentive to you and your needs in the first place , eventually disposing of you when another more promising opportunity victim comes along.
Are You Dating an Insecure Man? In the beginning insecure men come on fast and strong, spreading compliments thick, for about the first 3 or 4 dates and professing to love you by the fifth. They talk strongly and often about a future with you very early on, too early, and tend to fast track you into the bedroom by doing so because they know women, by nature, bond with men through physical contact.
All those compliments, promises, talk of future, exchanges of love and hot sex. And once you bite, they know they have a winner and they pull back hard on the line, quickly and without warning, reeling you out of the lovely pond you were just swimming in - and onto very dry land where they will watch you eventually suffocate and die without remorse.
Get rid of him — NOW. Change always starts with YOU. Behavior that is self-destructive need no longer take place. So forget about that because the only thing that will get you these days is victimized and taken for granted. Ladies, there are good men still out there, trust me on this. And if you work on yourself and participate in things that actually build your confidence , rather than take part in self-destructive behavior that actually chips away at it— you will find that you are no longer attracted to insecure men, you will develop a radar that can see them coming a mile away, and good men will admire your strength, independence and strong will.
Seriously ladies, be thankful for all the disappearing men in your life - they actually saved you a lot of grief.