More Statements, Less Questions Avoid making time with your prospective romance sound like a job interview. If you are at one of your regular Friday night ragers, its likely that they have just spent the last hour answering the same questions over and over.
Nobody likes to repeat where they are from and what college, they to go times in one night. Talking about the factual and logical gets boring really quickly. Making statements, or even guessing what they do makes it about them. If you actually predict something about them which turns out to be true, they will be much more invested in the conversation.
Enter the Art of Cold Reading. Cold read, turn questions into educated guesses, and provide honest but positive statements on their responses. People love to know what others think about themselves.
Balancing this with the regular flow of what feels natural to you will create a conversation that is noticeably more engaging and entertaining. Be Polarizing Being polarizing is the opposite of being bland. Passionate emotion is highly contagious and energizing to the people around you. Talk about things that you love.
Whether you are talking about a philosophy, hobby, aim or ambition you have to allow and un-hinder those passionate feelings to come through. Passion and charisma are deeply intertwined. Provided you are genuine, it will always resonate with other people. The likelihood is that they will respect your honesty rather than blow you out for it. Honesty is a romantic and sex worthy trait. Lying and manipulation is not. Attractive people can smell supplication and lying from miles away and it stinks majorly.
Playing safe for the fear of rejection or disapproval immediately grants you the status of mildly pleasant but utterly and totally forgettable. Even worse, it implies dishonesty because you are communicating an unwillingness to say what you mean. You are better off being loved for who you are, rather than being thought of as mildly dishonest, bland and totally forgettable by everyone else including your crush.
Fundamentally, people yearn to be taken away from the rationality and logic of the average Monday to Friday routine. Herein lies your greatest opportunity for charm and charisma. Provide an escape from the mundane and you will captivate entirely. Overly dwell on the logical, and your newfound friend will slowly turn their attention elsewhere.
Focus on the emotionally salient, and less on the logical. Dreams, goals, ambitions, loves, hobbies and fond memories. Save the logical and intellectual debate type conversations for your Monday to Friday routine. Nobody wants to feel like a museum piece. Doing this especially when you are talking or asking a question conveys confidence and sincerity.
Bearing in mind that slow and steady wins the race, you want to break periodic eye contact slowly but purposefully. Not have your eyes darting around the place, lest you wish to channel your inner chipmunk again.