TV has teamed up with Tinder to get y'all connected. Now that cavernous void in your blackened heart will be stuffed with a silly putty of wobbly legs, constant butterflies and neurotic fantasies of your firstborn. Cynicism aside, falling for someone is fun. The text messages that make you feel like your stomach is gonna fall out your big idiot butt.
But copping a serious case of the feels can also be incredibly nerve-wracking. What if the apple of your eye sees you as little more than an overly-eager worm? When it comes to high-stakes conversations, The Talk is right up there.
Thankfully, there are a few ways you can prepare for this integral chat. Do you actually feel a connection, or are you simply enjoying the attention? Ask yourself these important questions before you dive in and have the talk. We all have that friend who ended up dating a total cretin no matter how many times you told them it would end badly. But truth be told, no one knows you better than your mates. Chances are some of them have known you since you were a kid. Now you need to choose a time to execute The Talk.
Timing is integral, here. Professing your feelings too early and you could blow it by coming on too strong, too fast. It might be taking notes in your phone, or writing your thoughts down on paper — whatever works for you. Everyone knows breaking up with someone is best not done in a restaurant; same goes for The Talk. Having strangers witness things going ass over tit only adds insult to injury.
A favourite is in the car. How else do you think Seinfeld is able to get such candid answers outta his guests on Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee? It makes perfect sense. Here are a few: The best thing you can do for yourself is to mentally prepare for everything and anything. Put a contingency plan in place if it all goes to shit. Book a yoga class for afterwards.
Have a pint of Messina in the fridge. If things do go bad, be sure to take care of yourself in the resulting days and weeks. You might feel like telling them, We either make this official or I leave. Do they have a good reason to not want to make things official right now? Do they potentially see things changing in the future? No one deserves to be kept on the back-burner. Or… you could ignore all this advice and go with your gut.