Reviewed By Sean Jameson , January 29, If you're new here, you may want to get my discreet newsletter to learn how to make him sexually obsessed with you and only you.
Click here to get it. While this tutorial video is quite distressing, it will teach you how to make your man scream with pleasure and become sexually addicted to you. If you want to skip straight to the anal sex techniques and positions section, click here. I have also created a separate guide here on how to full prepare your body for anal sex hygiene, etc. Anal Sex Podcast Before we jump in, you may want listen to my anal sex podcast to learn some powerful anal sex tips for intense orgasms.
I do know that there are thousands or nerve endings in your anus, but there are even more in your vagina and clit. So if you currently struggle to orgasm from regular vaginal sex, then you may find anal sex to be way more pleasurable. If you want to give your man back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms that will keep him sexually obsessed with you, then you can learn these sex techniques in my private and discreet newsletter.
You'll also learn the 5 dangerous mistakes that will ruin your sex life and relationship. The Replacement — Often, vaginal sex is out of the question. You may not want to have it if you are on your period. You may even be sore from a previous session. This is when anal sex becomes the perfect back up plan.
No risk of pregnancy — This one is obvious, but anal sex means that there is almost zero chance of pregnancy. Anal Sex Cons Needs Planning — One of the biggest problems with having anal sex is that it requires some planning.
His Obsession — Some guys seem to have an obsession with anal sex, especially inexperienced guys. If you are not particularly keen, but your man is obsessed, then dealing with this pressure can be a real turn off.
Instead, try something else from the Bad Girls Bible. In fact, they may be more than simply disinterested in the idea of anal sex, they may dislike and even hate the idea. Check it out here to learn how. The same goes for anal sex. Like I mentioned previously, there are plenty more things you can do with your man. Communication, Seriously Learning how to have good anal sex requires great communication with your man.
This is going to be mostly one way communication by the way. You are going to be telling your man what to do AND what not to do. So you need to be comfortable with the idea of telling your man: To slow down, To pull out slowly To completely stop moving. Your man also needs to be someone who will actually follow your instructions too. Water Based Lube — As you can probably guess, water-based lube is made of mostly water.
The problem with water based lube is that it dries out quickly and then needs to be reapplied. Stopping to reapply lube can obviously ruin the vibe. You CAN use water based lubes with latex condoms as it does not degrade them. Silicone Based Lube — Silicone based lube is the lube we recommend you use when having anal sex.
It also feels super silky and smoother than many water-based lubricants. The only slight drawback is that it can sometimes be a little hard to wash out of your bedclothes.
Oil Based Lube — Oil based lube feels a little smoother and silkier than water-based lube. More importantly, oil-based lube degrades latex condoms making them tear and rip. Saliva — I decided to included saliva as often you may not have access to lube and need a backup, especially if you are having a quickie. The point of this ingredient is to kill sperm and prevent pregnancy, which has little risk with anal activity.
However, most lube that is spermicidal has ingredients that are harsh on your sensitive genital and anal cavities [ 1 ] [ 2 ], and even lube without spermicide can damage cells [ 3 ]. Avoid lube with spermicide for anal or any other sexual activity Unfortunately, even lubes without spermicide can damage the tissues in your anus [ 5 ].
This is due to osmolality, a rating of particulates dissolved in solution. Every orifice or tissue in your body has its own osmolality, and the rating differs between your anus and vagina, so you might want different lubes for each activity.
Good Clean Love is a healthier option , and Yes But and Sliquid Sassy are designed to be safe especially for anal sex. You can also try Aloe Cadabra as slow-osmolality lube for anal sex. Pain-Free Pleasure This section is by far the most important part of the anal sex guide.
Instead, it takes quite a while for it to relax and allow things to pass through it. Think of it as a very strong, but very slow muscle. So, the key to having pain free anal sex is getting your sphincter muscle to relax and open up enough so that your man can enter you with ease. He needs to apply a bit lube to the tip of his finger and some more to your ass.
Next he needs to slowly slide his finger inside you, millimeter-by-millimeter, while you give him feedback, telling his to go deeper or to stop moving or to SLOWLY pull out pulling out fast can cause some pain, he needs to do it slowly.
As he slowly penetrates you deeper and deeper with his finger, it should feel reasonably comfortable. If it becomes slightly uncomfortable, then tell him to stop moving and to keep his finger still for a minute or two.
This will allow your sphincter to relax around his finger and open up. When the pain subsides, he can push a little deeper. If it becomes too uncomfortable and painful, then tell him to pull his finger out slowly. Rest for a minute or two and then get him to start over.
Again you should control the pace here, so tell to him either speed up or slow down, depending on what you want. Again, he should be very slow and cautious doing this, following your instructions and feedback to either continue, slow down, stop or slowly pull out.
You could potentially be numb when a serious tear has occurred. Numbing ingredients may also be irritants [ 8 ]. So get him to lie down on his back and ask him NOT to thrust into you. Instead, he should remain still. Grab hold of his penis and then slowly guide it inside your anus. Make sure to take your time. As I mentioned above, if you feel uncomfortable or experience any type of pain stop and allow your sphincter muscle to relax around his cock.
Once it has, then you can try taking him a little deeper. The main thing here is to take things slowly. Meanwhile your man should stay lying down on his back, not thrusting.
Once you do feel comfortable moving up and down on your man, then he can start to get involved a little more by thrusting himself. Remember that you still need to be in control here. So if he gets too carried away, tell him to slow down or stop. This is the easiest and smoothest way to learn how to have pain free anal sex. You might also enjoy these 13 positions where you are on top of your man. From Behind — Once you are comfortable with your man having more control and doing all the thrusting, then you may want to try out some doggystyle type positions, where your man is fucking you from behind.
With this in mind, here are a few alternative ways to stroke it. Your own hands — After all, you know what type of stimulation your clit responds to best! You may want to steal some of these 14 clitoral masturbation techniques and use them during anal. Alternatively you can finger yourself using these 8 powerful fingering techniques and tips.
His hands — If your man is using one of these 19 anal sex positions , then all he needs to do is reach around and start rubbing and massaging your clit and vagina. He can even use the masturbation and fingering techniques I just mentioned. Vibrator — Using a vibrator is a super satisfying anal sex technique. You get to feel every inch of your man inside you while at the same time you get to feel the power of your vibrator on your clit.
This can lead to some really intense orgasms. Here are 9 deeply satisfying ways to use your vibrator during sex. There are numerous toys you can use during vaginal sex that will give you incredible anal pleasure such as: Butt Plugs — These are tapered toys with a flared base that you insert anally and stay in place. Most sex shops also sell vibrating butt plugs. Read our guide on butt plugs here. Anal Beads — These consist of connected round beads, almost like a necklace that you insert into your anus and then pull out.
Many people find that pulling the beads out during orgasm enhances it. Learn how to use a dildo for maximum pleasure here. The reason for this pain and discomfort is simple. This means that each time you have anal sex, it feels like the first time for your sphincter and it never learns to relax fully and open up. The only way to overcome this is to have anal sex regularly. This way your sphincter will get used to being full and relaxing around your man.
When this starts happening, then you need to start doing some experimentation so that you learn how to get maximum pleasure from anal. The easiest way is to try new positions.