We cannot talk, or raise questions, or — God forbid — even think of it because sex is considered something filthy and evil. Obviously, we all know that Islam prohibits having sex outside of marriage — but why does this have to prevent us from educating ourselves when the first generations of Muslims never shied away from seeking the answer for intimate questions?
Why do we feel embarrassed when sexual desires are completely normal and natural feelings of a human being, and there is nothing wrong with fulfilling them in the halal way?!
So, we put together a list with the most important information you need to know before your wedding night for those who are curious, confused, or wondering what to expect. Islam just puts guidelines for us to follow in regards to whom and when we can fulfill our sexual desires.
However, the actual act of sex is NOT wrong. To the contrary, sex, when done the halaal way, is a blessing from Allah swt in which you even get good reward for doing. Instead, spend time getting to know each other and eventually intimate with each other. That said, it should still be overall pleasurable — not painful. This could be a signal that you need more foreplay or lubrication.
Plus, that tissue can tear from a variety of things such as physical activity, masturbation, etc. The more sexual behaviors you engage in prior to sex kissing, touching…etc. The way the vaginal canal works is: Plus, lots of foreplay can help a guy get a stronger erection.
You should know, though, that oil-based lubes can screw with latex condoms and make them less effective. So you should find a water-based or silicone-based lube instead. By time, you will learn how to control yourself. This can happen to anyone with a penis regardless of your age , and that pressure and nerves can definitely play a role.
But if, God forbid, you have been exposed to porn before, you must know that real life sex is not what you saw in those movies. It takes a while to figure out how to do things in a way that feels good. Relax, breathe, go slow, and remind yourself that being a little anxious is normal. If you have any advice about first-time sex and wedding night you feel would benefit others, please share it below the comments!