Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. After my May 28 post " 12 Cold Facts About Being Super-Hot ," some of my good-looking, male, professional friends said, "It is difficult being a hot professional guy too.
Women are too easy. Noah, a young cardiac surgeon who looks like he walked into the O. Chasing a chick is a chess match, and it is a big turn-on. There is no fun in easy women. They're blamed for everything. So if it rains tomorrow, I am sorry. I am a nice guy, and you are an obnoxious, arrogant, black queen, yet people love you and hate me.
Other men are threatened and overly aggressive. I make more money. I am taller and better-looking. I drive a more expensive car. I dress better, have a bigger house, and a bigger People think they are gay.
Women become more hostile when rejected. They read way too much into it. Being the dream guy is a nightmare. They don't know anything about me other than how I look and what I do for a living. Women presume they are players. I am a young dude, so, yeah, if I forget to turn my swag off, I wake up knee-deep in honeys. That's a given with my job and my looks.
But just because that's what I can easily have does not mean that is what I want. Women resent their looks. They always feel like they have to look their very best when they're with me, and they resent it after a while.
People think they should only date supermodel types. Of course, I want her to be attractive, but when you connect with someone, she becomes beautiful, because you see things no one else does. Like my current girlfriend. She is not technically beautiful, and she says she needs to lose a few pounds, and I guess she is right. I just do not see her like that. She is brilliant, kind, strong, interesting and passionate woman.
I can feel her energy when she walks into a room, even if my back is turned. That is so incredibly hot to me. But when people see us together, they do not get it.
Not only that, it bothers them. I have overheard people say, 'Why in the world is he with her? Why is she with me? It really pisses me off when these model types see me with her and think that the power of cute is stronger than the power of love.
It is incredibly arrogant and insulting. People are less accepting of interracial dating. But people wig out when they see a white dude like me with a black girl or a Latina. They do not have the same reaction when they see some pudgy, balding white guy with a black girl.
It's similar to the Germans' reaction when Boris Becker was with that smoking-hot black girl. However, the emotions these problems engender are generically human. It does not matter why you feel something; what matters is that you feel it.
Men are typically more open to recreational sex than women generally are. However, recreational sex is not a substitute for love. Likewise, it does not matter if you can get a zillion people in your bed if you cannot find that one who gets in your heart and your head. There are only so many buttons on the dial of human emotion. Yes, my handsome, successful, young Jacks of Heart, your problems are very real, just different.
However, take it from someone who rises in the shadows of life compared with you: It does not matter what people think about you. What matters is what you think about yourself. Remain fabulous and phenomenal.