Dena November 8, Equality is defined the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities. Equal is further defined as being the same in quantity, size, degree, or value and having the ability or resources to meet a challenge. Women want to be considered equal to men. They want the same status, rights, and opportunities. I agree that they should be. But when it comes to dating and relationships, many women do not want to be equals. They want to maintain these gender roles.
In regards to dating, when women complain about chivalry, they are ascribing to a gender role. Chivalry suggests that a man has to do certain things for a woman that he is trying to court.
That a woman only needs to sit back and allow a man to woo them. If you really wanted equality, you would also feel compelled to court a man. I am simply saying that if you want equality, then why is there such a big fuss about a woman courting a man? A man is supposed to be the provider? This is a gender role. Why are we still considering women who financially provide for their able-bodied boyfriends or husbands idiots?
Women want more say in relationships. Women do not want to be submissive to their husbands. Women want to be independent. But women still want to be catered to. There are still things that women expect men to do in relationships simply because they are men.
Now there are some women who are defying the traditional gender roles in relationships and I applaud them. They are asking men out on dates. They are paying for these dates. Since they are the established ones, once they get serious, they are letting their boyfriends move in with them. Some of you are reading this with your face twisted, full of disgust. All this confirms to me is that you truly are not ready for relationship equality. You want more power without having more responsibility.
You want to have a partnership without taking on the roles and duties that were traditionally reserved for a man. You want to have the right to not cook, clean , sex him, or do any of the traditional woman duties without being judged for it.
But, you still expect for doors to be held open for you, your dates to be paid for, your man to do all of the handywork, and for some of you, to be able to support you financially. So what is it going to be? Are we going to keep these gender roles? Are we going to get rid of all gender roles and truly be equals when it comes to dating and relationships?
Or are you ladies going to be honest and say that you want your cake and eat it. You want the changes that will benefit you. You never wanted to be equals when it came to relationships. So why should we?