Dating in California's major cities is far from easy, but one thing it certainly doesn't lack is a bevy of incredibly attractive and intelligent single women. After all, most urban-dwelling Californians are rising Hollywood stars in the making or climbing the ranks of the tech world. And because "The Golden State" is home to Internet and app utopia, Silicon Valley, there's no stigma around online dating. In fact, if you're Cali-based, single and not swiping in some direction, good luck breaking free of the "earthy crunchy" stereotype.
But when it comes to finding someone "quality," someone you actually can see yourself enjoying a beer with at a bar — or, better yet, a nice long hike without constantly stopping to take selfies — you're likely to run into some trouble yes, even if you're the world's most eligible bachelor.
The major problem when it comes to dating in L. Unless they are the small few who can afford to live in the city centers, they likely have a car and commute from at least a 5-mile radius. Five miles might not sound so bad, but in city traffic that could take a whole hour, AKA serve as a long-distance relationship. So to make dating in California territory less of a headache and more like a happy ending, we've come up with 10 realistic and reasonable resolutions.
In Real Life Just because folks here are familiar with the smorgasbord of swanky and street-smart dating apps and sites available at their fingertips or in person, since nearly all of their headquarters are based in the Bay Area , doesn't mean that in-real-life dating is out the window. In fact, tons of urban-based Californians are into making natural and impromptu connections with potential someone's.
If you're into volunteering, there's certainly no shortage in any of the big cities and it's a great chance to meet single do-gooders who are willing to sacrifice their nights and weekends for the betterment of humanity. Join a club or sports team. There's no shortage of hiking group meetups which tend to attract significantly more women than men , biking and running clubs and intramural teams around town. If you're San Fran-based, consider SF Urban Adventure Club , which hosts more than 40 events each month all based around fun activities that bring together like-minded people.
In fact, MeetUp claims to connect more than 90, meet ups in a given week. The best part about it is you can create your own group based on a variety of interests or set up in-person meetings to discuss shared ideas or much whatever's on your mind.
Users simply enter their zip code and tag topics of interest, be it sports and fitness, writing and literature, sci-fi and gaming, LGBTQ or many others. Once a group is created and a meeting spot is arranged, that's where the magic happens. Meetup's free of charge for individual users, though they do charge organizers fees to create and manage groups. Learn more at Meetup Zoosk Relatively new to the dating app scene, Zoosk is based straight out of the Bay Area, so it's safe to say it understands its California audience.
It's functional, playful and inviting interface and simplistic and straightforward approach to matching members may be a few of the reasons it's so popular among urban-dwelling millennials, boasting over 40 million members to date. No three-hour long questionnaire required and you don't have to worry about being the first one to initiate conversation, since it's a gender-equal site.
It also weeds out any fakes or catfish by verifying your phone number and photos, which it does by opening your camera and prompting you to stare straight ahead, to the right and then the left.
Learn more at Zoosk Read our full Zoosk review Match By far one of the more established and well recognized dating sites and apps out there, Match. It's been able to secure its spot thanks to its innovative and always-improving technology and innovative features like Missed Connections, a similar method to what French app Happn is based off. This location-based feature connects users who have physically crossed paths IRL — kind of bridging the gap or at least blurring the lines between online dating and real-life meeting.
Just launched in , the company is already seeing positive user feedback from their Missed Connections feature, which is particularly beneficial to city dwellers like those in L. Which is why Hinge conducted a one-month experiment to see how open liners played a role in response rates. When they took a look at San Franciscans' first impression topics, they found users were more interested in discussing nostalgia or childhood memories than anything having to do with the entertainment industry.
Sounds pretty down to earth, if you ask us. This might be why Hinge is popular in California's cities. The app allows you to find your matches by searching through your own list of Facebook friends. You can only be matched with people who share a mutual friend with you — in other words, you start off having at least one connection in common.
It's totally free and certainly not a bad way to start meeting people, especially if you're new to the area.
Learn more at Hinge Read our full Hinge review Tinder There's no denying the appeal of the "hot-or-not" approach. And, while the app gets a bad rap for being the ultimate matchmaker for one-time hookups, there are plenty of couples who have found serious relationships — and even wedded bliss — on Tinder.
The fact is, it works. Tinder's generated over 10 billion matches to date and counting and is certainly not slowing down in the popularity contest for most used dating apps any time soon.
With a massive 50 million member user base 10 million of those active users , over 1 million paid Tinder Plus subscribers and an app that is currently available in about 30 languages, there's no denying that this swipe-savvy powerhouse is here to stay.
The key characteristic that sets it apart is the fact that it only allows women to message men once a match has been made — she just has to do so within 24 hours, otherwise the connection disappears.
This empowering perk keeps creepers away and allows real men of quality to shine bright. Plus, the pressures off you to come up with a creative one-liner that wows her — just take her cue and go with the flow.
The paid version, Bumble Boost, offers time-saving abilities by allowing you to like or pass on the members who've already liked you. We think the unpaid version is just fine and definitely one worth trying. Learn more at Bumble Read our full Bumble review OkCupid Another highly-backed dating app with a fairly positive reputation, OKCupid's great for encouraging tongue-and-cheek banter.
There's certainly no shortage of conversation available from the moment you input your info to the second you're matched with someone you're really interested in. Users can register for free and begin browsing right away.
If you're really enjoying the app and want to upgrade to the "A-list," you will have to pay, but this feature gives users a more in-depth experience by offering almost a dozen added features including invisible browsing, message storage, and the ability to change your username. One feature we're particularly into is the match compatibility and an enemy compatibility section that appears for each profile you visited.
OKCupid calculates these in percentages based upon how two individuals answered the questions section in the very beginning. Its intuitive interface and casual approach to dating is certainly less intimidating than most of its competitors.
By authenticating users' Facebook pages, Coffee Meets Bagel operates by pairing you with people you know. From there, it learns as much about you as possible through a series of questions that run the gamut from your sexual orientation to your favorite book. What makes it more appealing to men is that it's more of a female-focused app in the sense that it boasts a ratio of 60 men to every 40 men. Read our full Coffee Meets Bagel review Happn This app got its start in France but quickly made its way across the pond to large cities including L.
Its allure is that it links users up with people they have physically passed walked, biked or, depending on how much traffic you're in, driven throughout the day. The concept brings back the appeal of rom-comy first encounters. It's especially great for city dwellers since you're more likely to be continuously linked with those living in your neighborhood or working in or around your office area, which certainly makes a more convenient start to a relationship.
Signing up is easy — you verify your identity via Facebook so no catfish concerns here. And, like most of its competitors, Happn only links people who have mutually liked each other, making the user experience less overwhelming especially when you might see this person on a daily basis! Learn more at Happn Read our full Happn review AskMen may receive a portion of revenue if you click a link in this article and buy a product or service. The links are independently placed by our Commerce team and do not influence editorial content.