Gabrielle Union doesn't do passive. When she found herself unfavorably comparing her successes to others'—"I felt like you see everyone is having so much more," the actress admitted on the Today show Apr.
Turning to her vision boards, she stopped "chasing after specific things and asking for stuff," she explained and pared down her desires to one specific request. Having weathered a lawsuit from his ex-wife, a brief pre-engagement split and what the We're Going to Need More Wine author, 45, describes as "eight or nine miscarriages," in their nine years together, they're still rolling.
In fact their married life is so "freakishly awesome," Union told E! News , "It's almost kind of embarrassing to talk about. We really enjoy each other. When the pair first crossed paths co-hosting a Super Bowl party, they barely interacted. He was on the other side of the room holding bible study. Less than 24 hours after his proposal which somehow involved a bucket of KFC potato wedges—unclear why , she says she "discovered a message on Chris' computer that hinted at an affair. She got her heart broken.
He's sweet, funny, honest about his shortcomings. By the time the duo quietly started dating in they were snapped together at basketball pro Alonzo Mourning's four-day charity event that June , Wade's divorce with Funches was already, how you say, contentious. She accused him of abandoning his children, cheating and infecting her with an STD.
He, in turn, sued her for defamation. And at one point during the drawn-out financial portion of the divorce, she sat outside the Chicago courthouse with a cardboard sign that read, "NBA Miami Heat star, mother of his children on the streets.
When Wade filed for sole custody of their sons Zaire, now 16, and Zion, now 10, in , alleging Funches couldn't "be considered a fit and proper person" to raise them, she went on the offensive. Along with claiming the couple didn't properly supervise the boys, she alleged the actress "engaged in sexual foreplay" with Wade in front of them and that her actions had caused their eldest so much stress and anxiety that he was forced to seek medical treatment.
Union's rep labeled the allegations as false and they were later dismissed by a judge. And amid all that mess, in the ultimate power move, the pair make their red carpet debut at the same charity event they were snapped attending one year earlier.
By March , a judge handed over sole "care, custody and control" of the boys to Wade, scolding Funches for embarking "on an unstoppable and relentless pattern of conduct for over two years to alienate the children from their father.
But in April —two months after she and Wade posed together for the cover of Essence—she had the opportunity to clear her name. There's no way that I would trade it for people who refuse to simply acknowledge the truth. Starting in January —as Union was launching into her BET series Being Mary Jane and Wade was dealing with a nagging knee injury—the pair quietly separated for several months.
Moving forward, I decided my work schedule has to make sense for our family. We want to continue to get better each day,'" Wade explained during a September appearance on The Tonight Show. We're going strong now. Just 10 days after their engagement, news broke that Wade had fathered a child with longtime pal Aja Metoyer, now a member of the Basketball Wives cast. Fans were aghast, but Wade calmly confirmed the recent arrival of his third son, Xavier, in a press conference, calling him "a blessing.
Because of course Union knew. One of the tenets of their relationship, she told Glamour, is honesty: Let the chips fall where they may. PacificCoastNews Joking to Us Weekly that he'd become a "groomzilla," she revealed that when the athlete realized she was trying to turn their June affair at Miami's Chateau Artisan "into a frat party with k-cups and beer pong," he took over. You can have more than one dress.
I think he's delicious. Watching him get out of the shower never gets old. But at the end of the day, I just screw it back on myself. News , "he's very romantic and a great gift-giver. Union isn't shy about listing his other attributes either, explaining to Glamour, "Sometimes my girlfriends will mention sexting or certain positions as something they'd only do with a guy on spring break. They'll say, 'You don't do that with someone you love. In the initial years after their wedding, she politely deflected questions about when they would procreate.
But by last fall she was so tired of people prying into what may or may not be happening in her uterus, she gave the sort of brutally honest response that's designed to halt all inquiries. Revealing her series of miscarriages, she wrote in her new book, "For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant—I've either been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle. Should she be spotted holding a newborn, by all means, she'll address it.
Until then, she told E! News , "If we are or if we aren't, that's, like, totally our thing.