Feb 21, at Has the dating scene changed since you were last out there? Are you out of practice in meeting new people to date? Pin One of my clients who just got a divorce said, "I don't know how to handle this! When guys are talking to me, I don't know if they're just being nice or if they're interested in asking me out. I haven't dated for so long, I'm clueless.
You're wobbly, you're scared, and you're afraid you look funny. Here are some tips to help you meet people: Attitude is everything Give yourself a good attitude. Pull up your confidence by remembering your successes, achievements, and the people who love you. Focus on the positive aspects of your life before you go anywhere. After asking one more question to give the person a chance to warm up, introduce yourself and ask his name. If someone is rude, cold, or aloof, and doesn't seem interested in talking to you, say "Nice to meet you," and walk away.
You don't have time to spend your energy thinking about it. People are waiting to meet you who do want to talk. And believe it or not, research also says that men usually talk about themselves more than women do.
In defense of the tendency to talk too much, this is what happens when you are nervous. You may also be unaware that you are not taking turns. Pay attention, if you can, to the give and take that is needed to start a dialogue. If you walk away from a conversation with someone knowing very little about him, you either didn't listen, or -- you didn't let him talk.
Compliment occasionally Compliments make others feel good, but excessive compliments will make you seem needy, desperate, and insecure. I once watched an attractive, successful man just blow it with his blind date. He told her how beautiful she was so many times you could see the smile fade from her face.
She began to squirm, get uncomfortable, and lose interest in him. He could not read the clues, thought the date went well, and was hurt to discover that she didn't want to see him again. She told me that after the fifth time he gushed, "Wow! You are so beautiful! Everyone wants to feel they are attractive to their date, but they also want to know that the other person sees who they are beyond their looks.
Use this behavior wisely but know that one sincere compliment combined with a simple touch of the arm or hand means you will probably not be forgotten. People are terrified of being "rejected," which means they may never get the one they want because they won't take a chance. Whether you meet people in an airport or at the shoe store, if you like them, get their card.
Exchange contact information before you say goodbye. Everything in life takes practice. You are exercising new muscles that have not been used for a while.
Think about the above six tips and know that you can become comfortable being yourself and socializing. Go ahead—have a good time.