RobC I married a girl that I met in a bar. King Mercury American women will divorce you at the drop of a hat! American women expect the man to be Superman in their life, always able to afford the entire world. My best friend meet her husband at a bar. The atmosphere is still fun, but you get a chance to actually talk to someone in a quieter setting. I would always prefer a house party over a bar…provided my friends are throwing house parties on a weekly basis…regrettably house parties come less than once a month and for some people…never.
If you are depending only on house parties you may only have of those a year while I can go to a bar more frequently than that giving me more opportunities to meet people. For me wedding invites come once every two years…giving me one opportunity every two years to meet someone. A sports league with two dried up prospects and no subsequent ones. I think long term relationships that start in bars are extremely uncommon. Mark Myers As a guy who met his wife of over 11 years at a bar, I agree with everything you say.
I did the sports league, the cooking classes, the art classes, all of it, frankly, those strategies are often very overrrated, especially, as you say, once you either realize the two girls on your team a. I know I would get burned out pretty quickly.
Certainly people meet others in bars and some start fantastic life-long relationships, I think for the most part, the point of this piece is pretty spot on. Matt Hey LM, who peed in your corn flakes?
This article is just one sad list of defeatist stereotypes. And as a guy who is in a 5 year relationship a guy who knows? Completely disagree on your anti-coffeeshop advice. This kind of guy is going to be in a healthy, long relationship much faster than a guy using Game methods or trying to impress women with lines. You have to ask yourself, would you really want to be with a woman who was swooned with how you introduce yourself?
Sounds like a pretty mediocre woman. Carlos So basically, get out there Sloan Great article. If your living in or near enough to a major hub for your area then the choices of going out can be endless and your night can differ wildly just feet down the road in a different building. As long as your were you want to be, doing what you want to do and open to meeting someone in the process your chances are a lot better.
Be that a bar watching a band play and drinking a beer or a coffee shop reading the afternoons paper and sipping on your tea. Mark Myers Gotta agree with Daniel, my female friends always gave me the worst advice, it was always what they thought sounded right, but not what I saw actually working for them with the men who caught their interest.
It almost seemed like their advice was subtle sabotage to keep me single. Excellent article — well written. I feel sorry for you. Girl after girl rejects my offers, rebuffs or declines. No matter how many times your script gets turned down you can always try selling the idea at the next place. Andrew K It all boils down to what kind of person these people are.
Only people I know that had any kind of relationship from meeting at a bar have been happily married for over 15 years. Odd enough, neither drink. Happy hour with friends on a week night is better than any of the suggestions above.
Plus liquid courage will increase the likely hood of you acting on your interests. I met my wife in a bar after work on a week night 6yrs ago.
We have been married almost 4yrs, and we have a 4 week old baby together. Congrats on the family! Sure a bar is a great place to hang out and meet people but I am not convinced enough that a bar is the right environment to find a partner to spend the rest of your life with even with some rare examples. ZodiacRose I completely agree with Megan. I also advocate Dinner Clubs to meet people. Alex Have a look at this cool set of articles on how to approach women.
School and work seem to the the most common places and meeting through friends a distant third. If you are not in school and there are only dudes at work, it can be tough. CH There were a study shows..