He says he sees a future with me and his plan is to leave and us be together but not sure how long this will actually take? I have no doubt he loves me but How long do I give this?
Am I pushing too soon for action? Is he ever going to leave? Or am I kidding myself with this whole thing? I am trying to take it all day by day since I too am just getting divorced and feel like I should not rush into anything too serious just yet either. July 5, at He may be saying those things because he just wants to keep you around, or he genuinely wants to work something out with you. In the meantime, be available and open to the opportunity to dating other people.
You are going along with it right now and are a sure thing for him. He needs a couple years to get over the divorce, and be ready for anything serious. He is cheating on his wife with you. This man has no intention of divorcing. Right now you are probably drawn to each other because you are both emotionally unavailable. I NEVER date men who are separated and I certainly would never even entertain the idea of dating a man who is still living with the ex wife!!
July 5, at 1: That should help keep you focused on the reality of the situation. I doubt he will move out any time soon. He has everything he needs in this current situation, which is not fair to you at all.
July 5, at 3: Same story, he was honest with me about his situation on the first date, we loved each other very much, made future plans, vacations together etc…but guess what happened?
The closer he was getting to the end of the divorce procedure, the more stressed out he became. So yes, the post-divorce pain will hit him sooner or later.
It can come in many different expressions and shapes but it will come. I know it hurts, especially when the feelings involved are strong, but just ask yourself that question. If he really is in an in-house separation then he will not have a problem with you coming over at least when the wife and kids are not there. If they are both moving on and seeing other people then you would not be a secret and they would have made arrangements to provide each other space and opportunity to have relationships with others.
Divorce is expensive and emotionally difficult more so when kids involved. He will have to pay alimony and child support if he moves out and makes the divorce final. In my state, you need to be separated and living at different addresses for at least a year until you can divorce. I agree that I would never get serious with a man who is not fully divorced.
I dated a man who claimed he was in an in-house separation for four years just to find out he had a 2 year old son, lol. I would suggest you start to date others and let him know to contact you when he is serious about divorcing his wife. Author Viewing 12 posts - 1 through 12 of 12 total Reply To: Dating a separated but not divorced man!
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