Ask Anne Jun 1, Question: I am in a relationship with a guy I love. For example we have been going out for 5 years we are both 26 and he has never got me anything for Valentines day. We have had rows over this. He thinks these type of things are silly and pointless.
Bear in mind that he finds it very difficult to talk about his feelings. She does not represent herself to be a psychologist, therapist, counselor or professional helper of any sort.
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Do not stop your medication or change the dose of your medication without first consulting with your physician. There is nothing wrong with you. You certainly deserve gifts. The male mind is a funny thing. Men are born with all the tender and vulnerable emotions that women have. However, where women are expected and allowed to have these emotions, men get punished for expressing them. It is a societal sickness that this is so, but it is so. Your boyfriend is probably a casualty of this societal sickness.
However, his love lives within him in an encapsulated form. He has difficulty expressing it because he is deeply ambivalent about it. He needs love, and yet his need makes him feel weak; he has to keep some distance from them.
One way of keeping distance from love is for him to rebel against gift giving. He is being selfish here by thinking of his own needs over yours, but not in a mean way, just in an immature macho sort of way. Stop him if he starts commenting before you are done. I suspect that he is not really in tune with you, not because he is a bad guy, but because he is too busy keeping himself feeling safe.
But he will likely be awkward at first when he does come around and may need some special attention to reassure him. Good Luck, — Anne.