Tweet Going from your first phone call with a woman to your first date is a big step. You have officially gone beyond cyber space and have exchanged private contact information. It is MUCH harder to go from messaging to talking on the phone than from talking on the phone to a real meeting in person. If you are having difficulties getting numbers take a look at our guide to online messaging. Fortunately the process of going from the phone to an in-person meeting is easier and faster than messaging back and forth.
You should be using this initial phone call to get to know the woman you are talking to and make sure they are worth the time and effort to meet in person. If you approach this call with the mindset that you are screening them to make sure they are worth the effort you will be confident, relaxed, and most able to be your true self on the phone.
Follow these steps below to have the best shot at landing a first date, assuming that is what you are after. Once she sends you her number via email send her a quick message back that is simply: Then send her a quick text like: When is the best time for you next week to get to know each other a little bit on the phone? Older women especially are going to be busy so you want to schedule ahead of time.
Trying to randomly call a woman during the week is a great way to talk to a lot of answering machines. Take the lead and offer a couple of times in the early evening to have a quick call. First Phone Call Preparation Even in dating, the most prepared guy is usually going to come out on top. Especially once you get the hang of messaging and are talking to several women at once preparation is key. Time to go back to your school days and start taking some notes.
Read through her profile again and list out a few things including: What To Write Down Questions about interesting things in her profile Any recent travel she has had Favorite foods or restaurants This is going to be your backup list in-case the conversation stalls.
If you reach a point in the conversation where you both go quiet you can pull one of the topics of conversation from your list. While you are at it, write her name at the top of the list. That should prevent you from repeating a less than ideal blunder that I once made… You should also list out a few interesting or funny stories about yourself to weave into the conversation.
One or two is great to keep her interested and laughing. If the conversation is going great without them feel free to save them for the first date. Without any body language to read, all of your communication has to be verbal. A simple message like this is ideal: Give me a call when you get this. My number is xxx-xxx. The Conversation The actual conversation itself should be fun and playful. You want to keep it fairly light, tease her a bit, and get know each other.
Try not to get into any controversial topics or anything too deep if you can help it. The whole goal of this conversation is to make sure she is worth meeting in person and setting up the date. The entire call should be minutes tops. Once you reach that threshold you need to decide if you want to meet her in person or not. Not every call is going to work out. You should give the woman the benefit of the doubt though.
Not everyone can be as prepared and confident as you on the phone and some people are much better in person. If you still decide to call it off simply end the call gently like this: Send her a quick text and let her down easy with an honest response: Best of luck to you!
You have convinced me that you are not a scary person and I think we should meet in person like normal people. What works best for you? With this phrasing all that she has to do is pick a date. Assuming your conversation went well this will be a very natural transition. Once she tells you what day works best you want to wrap up the call ASAP. Say this and get off the phone: Talk to you later Jenny.
Get off the phone! A quick note about the first date — Drinks or coffee is the perfect first in-person date for a number of reasons: You are not committing to spending several hours with someone you barely know, but are still getting to know them more. If you are still at the point where you are looking to find more older women to date check out our Best Online Cougar Dating Sites Review to find the best places to do so.
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