Some friend of a friend set them up as pen pals or she decided to write to some unknown soldier away at war.
They exchanged a few pictures and spent countless hours drafting letters back and forth, baring their hearts and souls to each other. Without ever dating, they fell in love. The physical attraction was every bit as strong as the emotional attraction they had felt for each other. Today we have an Internet version of the same thing.
People go to these dating sites to find love. It seemed a bit weird at first like most things that are new and different, but eventually we became used to the idea. Is it really any different than meeting in any other manner?
You still have to weed through the riffraff. You still have people presenting themselves as something other than what they really are. You still have crooks and cheats, predators. And you still have honest real folks looking for true love. You still have married folks looking for a way to cheat on their partners. The only real difference is how fast the system works. Sure, a lot of people say that the eyes are the windows to the soul and that you need to meet in person to get a real feel for each other.
And there is a lot of truth to that. But what about those old pen pal stories? They fell in love without it being about sexual attraction. It takes forever for them to open their eyes and see the sexy person for what they really are. Why not agree to write emails back and forth for a while before meeting in person?
Make up fun questionnaires for each other to fill out. Ask them what their number one most embarrassing moment in life is. Ask them what their number one best shining moment was. Ask them if they felt loved as a child.
Ask them if they have felt loved as an adult. What is their next wild adventure in life going to be? Have fun really getting to know each other before you meet in person. Have a real bond based on more than the fact that you both like moonlit walks on the beach and want to someday have children.
So many people put in their profiles that they only want to meet people that are close to home, 50 miles, miles, etc. Why not reach out across the globe. Why not find new pen pals to write to? Who knows maybe your soulmate is just across the ocean. And let me tell you, the first time I laid eyes on her I knew that she was the only one for me.
She was well worth the wait!