But life always finds a way. Young people in the Gulf are very creative when it comes to avoiding the strict rules of the game imposed by society, and navigate love in an underground full with its own rules that defy traditions. The affluent liberals The affluent class, often Westernized and more liberal, tends to be more accepting of the concept of dating. They would just ask me: We are still friends, and she introduced me to the man she is with at the moment," says Abdullatif. Things are more difficult for gays, however, even among the liberal segments.
We operate in a bubble within a bubble. I start with small talk and if she is being receptive, I know that she does not mind a relationship, without the need to ask her directly, as it may strain the situation," she explains. Relationships within this class may face problems for certain considerations, related more to origins, business and political interests rather than conservative values.
At least that's the impression one gets from talking to people. Their attitude to dating can be said to be contradictory, if not hypocritical, engaging in dating while at the same time frowning upon it "Through experience and dealing with young men, you know that getting serious with someone after a relationship is often a lie. The majority of men who get into a relationship with you believe that what you two are doing is wrong, and thus would not consider marrying a girl they have been in a relationship with before marriage," Abeer says.
There are some exceptions, however, she adds. Men and women are also judged by different, patriarchal standards. Families are more accepting of their sons dating than their daughters doing it, for example. Later he introduced me to his sister. My family, however, should not know about it now. He gave me back the phone after he calmed down, and after a period of time he forgave me as long as I didn't do this again," Mariam said.
Others have a more guilty attitude. One of them could be serious, but I did not promise the others anything. There are other rules. Probably a natural consequence of dating in a secretive and unhealthy underground. The conservatives' secret dating policy There is a more conservative and religious class, especially the one with a tribal or fundamentalist background.
But even there, love, dating, and other things are inevitable. I am currently in a relationship with one of them. I am always keen on keeping the relationship free from anything that God forbids.
We only talk on the phone and meet at a reading club, and we have agreed to get married. I went to his apartment once and we got a bit physical. Of course, if anyone from my family, male or female, found out, I could be killed. Names used in this article are pseudonyms.