WhatsApp We live in a world where we are continuously surrounded by media in some form or the other. This is what gives us the unrealistic expectation of love and relationships.
However, this naivety lasts only until your first major heartbreak. It is only after that the reality of the situation starts to hit that you tend to realize reality is far from what media portrays. It is important to have standards so as to not end up settling but we also need to be mindful and realistic on what we expect from love and relationships.
I was that person once. Then something fantastic happened, I fell in love or at least I thought I did. It felt amazing and magical somehow at the beginning like I own the world and nothing can go wrong. It was at that exact time when reality hit and things went down south. Well, that is not the case. I was hurt, confused and jaded in a certain sense. I told myself that if this is what love feels like, I never want to fall in love ever again.
Then, the inevitable happened; I fell for someone again. I was scared of course. I was guarded but I eventually gave in and it was at that very moment that I saw my trust being broken. It feels like having trust issues is like one of the biggest roadblocks you can face in your life.
Not only are we always skeptical about trusting people but we start to become negative in our head too. We have a constant fear that a certain person is going to break our trust and hence we never let them in.
We have closed our hearts off and this could stop someone who is right for us from coming into our lives. Rather than being excited at a prospect of a date or meeting someone new, we are skeptical about it. We always want to take things slow because we want to gauge what your true intentions are. You may not think our past was a big deal but the baggage we are carrying is what is putting us down.
Our hearts have been played with, we have been cheated on, and we know how shitty it feels. So rest assured, if we are in it with you, we will give you all we have. That being said, there are a few things you can do to get someone with trust issues to actually trust you.
First and foremost, make sure your intentions are genuine. Over a period of time we have become very intuitive on who we should and should not trust. Learn to be patient with us. We will take our sweet time until we are sure about you. You will need to make the first move because we are going to be cautious for a while. If you actually care, take the first step. Listen when we talk. We will surely acknowledge the effort. Please be honest with us. Actions do speak louder than words so please complement your words with actions.