The truth is Romanians like foreigners, and Romanian women in general will give more attention to foreigners trying to win them over. If you try to start a relationship with a Romanian woman while in another country — perhaps even your home country — then you have to try your best, as competition is everywhere; make sure you tackle the topics below.
Keep all these in mind while trying to win her, date and build a relationship with her; she will most likely figure out your agenda if you plan otherwise. Exchange cultural identity stories. Romanians like to learn about other countries and about foreigners in general, and women love it when a potential partner has new information to share with them, and when they can teach them something without patronizing them!
So a very good starting idea would be to share thoughts about your country and fellow countrymen, while at the same time asking for the same kind of information about Romania. A very good ice breaker, and an excellent discussion topic for your first dates. Tell her stories from your home country, and ask for stories to help you understand Romania better.
Get some Romanian language classes. Most Romanians usually speak one or more foreign languages, so chances are high the woman you like speaks at least English. But if you want to impress, and if you want to better integrate and learn your way around Romania anyway, start learning the language.
Take some classes, or even better, ask the woman you like if she wants to teach you some of the basics, and offer to teach her the basics of your language too. Watch out for what you wear. But in general, appearance is important for Romanian women, and many like to have impeccable outfits. So better make sure you try to match her style, or at least avoid being in a totally different ballpark than her.
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When unsure, ask her! Play the foreigner card. This works with every woman, but it will work magic on Romanians. Ideally, you should really be impressed, and tell the truth when complimenting her. Romanians have a tendency to see conspiracies around them sometimes, so if the compliment sounds too good, or fake, she will figure it out quite rapidly, and add another negative point to your book.
Yes, women keep track of the good and the bad about you, and often speak about these to their friends! A Romanian woman will almost never refuse a gift then again, what woman would? She will be even happier when it is something she can brag about a little to her friends, and will certainly be super excited when she will see you put some thought into it and made it personal.
Delivery of the gift also matters, especially when you start dating. While dating her, learn what are her favorite flowers, and send her a bouquet to the office, where co-workers can also see it. You can send flowers for no reason, of course, just to tell her how beautiful she is, or to celebrate a name day or another occasion Martisor — March 1 and 8 , but be aware — this sets the tone for her future expectations.
She might never admit it and always say she loves you with or without flowers and actually mean it , but try giving her flowers every month or so, and you will see the difference! Romanian women are very proud that way, so always make sure you keep a balance, and read the signs she sends you. Learn name days and other holidays when small gifts are expected.
As a foreigner, you might be overwhelmed by the many name days in Romania. These are usually Orthodox saint celebrations, and many Romanians are named after saints. Some people make a big case out of it — similarly to their birthday, even throwing dinner parties — while others are not very keen on celebrating. Always assume the former, it is the safe route. Make sure you ask from the beginning if her name has a certain meaning and if there is a saint she is named after, and then on your own find out when that saint is celebrated.
Two name days you will probably learn the hard way — Florii the Sunday before orthodox Easter is the name day for anyone named Florin male name , Florina, Florentina, Florenta, Flora women names , and anyone with flower names. So make sure you ask if and what her name means in Romanian. Even if she is not keen on celebrating, she will be thrilled you tell her La multi ani!
Narcisa is again a flower name — it means daffodil, and Lili is a Romanian name deriving from the flower lilac. The other name day celebration not many people will tell you about is Christmas. That week is a celebration of women in Romania, and men give trinkets or often just flowers as gifts to women colleagues, co-workers, business partners.
Cook together, learn to enjoy Romanian food and dinner parties. In general Romanian women like to cook, they learn it at home at early ages there will be exceptions, of course , so if they have time, they will cook often. Impress her by learning to cook a Romanian dish, or by teaching her a dish from your own country, and cook it together.
Prepare yourself for the possibility of cooking for your — or her — friends, and of hosting dinner parties. Impress her family and friends. Many Romanian women are independent and strong, so you would be tempted to think they could not care less about what their families think of their boyfriend.
The Romanian society is centered on the family, and even if a woman seems to be less connected to her family, somewhere deep, they are at the center of her heart. So making sure her family likes you is an important stepping point, even if she will not openly admit it. Even if Romanians like and accept very well foreigners in general, some families have a hard time accepting a foreigner in, so Romanian women try to make sure you could fit it, even before things get serious. Even if she will not take you to meet the parents, she will make sure you meet a sibling or a very good friend, quite early on, but probably after the two of you have been dating a bit.
When you go to visit her family for the first time, bring flowers for all the women in the family learn before hand how many they are and what are their ages, so you can buy appropriate flowers. For men her father, brother , usually a nice bottle of wine will do.
In many cases the parents might not speak English, so your Romanian language lessons could come in handy. Show the family you respect their daughter and try to speak about small plans you have together — trips, etc. Speak about your family too, and about your country — her family will want to know what are your roots, what your parents do for a living.
There is of course also the case where she has you meeting the family late, or very late into your relationship, and in this case you should try to find out — subtly! Take her to your home country. Romanians like to travel and discover new countries, new people. This could include meeting your parents or not, it will be up to you, depending on how young your relationship is, and how she feels about meeting your folks.
Take her out, go on holidays, organize activities. Romanians are in general very sociable and like to do things; apply that to a woman, and you can figure out the result. In general, Romanian woman would like their partners to organize various activities for the couple. Propose activities, either for the two of you, or involving your and her friends. Try to take her to the restaurant now and then perhaps avoid fast foods if you really want to impress. Traditionally Romanians cook at home and stay at home, so she most likely saw that in her family, and would like to experience something different too, like eating out from time to time.
This activity is anyway increasingly popular among the younger generation in Romania, so she will have friends who do it, and will want to do it too. A Romanian woman will be negatively impressed if her date asked her to cover half of the bill. She will expect you to cover the wining and dining budget.
If you have money issues and still want to take her out, it is better to be honest about it before going out. Have your friends meet her friends.
A group meeting involving your friends — possibly of the same nationality as you — and her friends most likely Romanian will be like an enforcement of your relationship on a bigger level, by emphasizing the mix between the two cultures.
Plus, she will feel the center of it all, as she will be proud to have put her Romanian friends in contact with your group of foreign friends. Something to do with the many years they were under Communism, where anything foreign was rare and valuable. So secretly she will always love it that others envy her for being in a relationship with you.
You still have to put time and effort into the relationship, if you really care about her. Share your ideas in the comment box below!