But does he overly care about how he looks? Yeah, those kind of girls are the female equivalent of narcissists. A narcissistic genuinely feels they deserve preferential treatment from the world — the best service, the finest things in life.
The world revolves around them and they should get exactly what they want when they want. To use a real life example: Everything that comes out of his mouth is filled with so much ego, bravado, and entitlement. You trust them and they betray you. In his friendships, he will probably befriend people knowing that he can get something out of them. OR, he got no attention from his parents, and therefore, has been starving for attention his whole life.
Both of those situations can develop someone who is a complete attention whore. Narcissists are like this. They HAVE to be the center of attention at all times.
To the point that they actually get jealous, upset, and moody if they feel somebody is overshadowing them. This can manifest itself in a relationship when everything is about his accomplishments. He has a very hard time standing back and allowing you to have your turn in the spotlight because he gets jealous, insecure, and competitive. They need the attention. A narcissistic man is probably the most likely to cheat or engage in an emotional affair. In a relationship there is a line that you should never cross, a narcissist will definitely test that line.
In general, a narcissist is puddy for a compliment and will be hard to trust because they have this deep, starving need to seek attention and be told by people how great and special they are.
This usually comes from the fact that a narcissist wants to have their cake and eat it too. This is where the likelihood to have affairs and test relationship boundaries arises from. Think of it like this: A narcissist thinks that how they think is the best way and everyone should adopt their way of thinking. They think they have all the answers and everyone else is wrong. This can lead to that thing we talked about earlier — delusional behaviour and way of thinking.
Not just that but their mood can shift and explode out of nowhere. Rather than being level-headed and diplomatic, a narcissist can be extremely reactive and erupt like a volcano going directly off emotion and impulse. This can make a relationship rocky at times, as you never know when they will explode. He could become jealous or threatened by your success, as in his eyes, it challenges his own.
Once again, he is so fueled by his ego that he may get caught up in competition with his girlfriend or spouse, rather than offering her support in the pursuit of her goals and ambitions. He sees all other men as a threat, and so, he will be fueled by testosterone to assert dominance over the other guys and mark his territory. They have difficulty following through. In the beginning stages of courtship, a narcissist will probably seem like the most romantic and exciting romantic prospect — fancy and romantic dinners, exotic vacations, and big romantic gestures.
You know, romance in the small things — the unasked-for back massage, cooking dinner for no reason, or simply loving you in a selfish way that puts you first, every day.
Most narcissists use grand romantic gestures to develop ownership over romantic partners, and help try to fulfill them for their inability to create true, authentic intimacy in the way you normally do in a relationship. Donald Trump takes his wife out for the most romantic dinners on the planet and flies her to the most amazing places in the world on his private jet, but do you think he ever rubs her feet for no reason?
He probably pays someone to do that for him. But deep to his core, this man is selfish. But in so many ways…in the bedroom this man makes sex all about his own pleasure. Very inherently and innately, he is selfish and it makes you feel more like his mother, caretaker, and cheerleader than his wife or girlfriend.