July 6, at 2: I am seeing a man for two months, very nice and caring, but after first month he stated that right now he is not emotionally available to be my boyfriend. Since that being said I didnt push into any labeling and just like you wrote Im just enjoying the time we can be together. I dont know how long should I wait till bringing the topic up again, or should I?
Thank you kindly for your respond. July 6, at 7: Based on the limited information my response to your question is not to wait but to move on. Everyone dates on a value scale meaning we judge others based on their perceived value and worth to us and then to the public.
A man might date a less attractive woman because she treats him like a king. And the longer you accept these crumbs the less he respects you and your value goes down.
My advice would be to get very clear on what you want, why you want it and be honest about whether this is the man who can and will give it to you. I hope this was helpful. He has told me he does not like speaking on the phone.
I met him last Thursday but very limited communication since. Should I end it? I have thought about saying something about it to him but it would have to be via text.
Thanks July 6, at 7: If you have tried all of the seduction and attachment tricks you know and he is drifting away then let him go. You deserve a man that is crazy about you, obsessed with you and dying to see you out of fear that you might be seeing someone else.
If this man is not keeping up with you at least to inquire about your welfare or your day then by all means ask for more. If I were you I would sign up for coaching and get this straightened out. Thank you for your advice. July 15, at 9: We live in two different states. He asked if I would be interested in keeping touch and I said I would.
We did not have sex during our time together but did make out, hold hands — all PG fun. What do you think? July 15, at Absolutely reach out to him! Giving first and being kind, even exhibiting the behavior you expect to receive is completely appropriate, even necessary, in dating.
The question to ask yourself is what does it mean to you that you have to reach out first? I think this is a perfect opportunity to show confidence and kindness. Action eliminates fear, so just do it! Perhaps he was more on the polite end because of the relationship we both have with our mutual friend. I will give him a few more days and then make a move if he has not. Have a great day! July 19, at 1: He lives in a different country. He is a wealthy guy. So he started texting me once a week only a short text nothing deep I guess just to keep intouch he was promising to travel with me to spend a few days together.
When he came in town we met spend a night together no sex and he was saying he had feelings for me and was thinking of potentialy getting into a relationship have babies and get married. I told him I had another guy that wanted a relationship with me and I might consider it. But I also told him I liked him. A few weeks passed by and we kept intouch and he was planing to see me again when he came in town.
So I asked him why he would want to see me if he knew I might go into this other relationship which I lied about just to see his reaction.. So I got pissed off argued with him and cut him off. Is he looking forward to a friends with benefit relation? Should I cut him off? July 19, at Knowing little background on your situation I will offer a bit of advice as you asked.
First, appreciate when a man is trying. Maybe this is how he communicates. Second, get to know him. Third, tell him what you want. Tell him what you expect and would like out of the relationship. If you like him treat him fairly and give him the opportunity to step up. July 22, at 3: I texted him the next day and told him that I had a good time with him the other night.
I also told him that i am going to a jazz concert with my friends and he is welcome to join us. I was also feeling so awkward and insecure for the night before so I texted him and told him that I was very intoxicated the other night. If yes how long do you think i should wait before moving on? I really really like him btw and hope there is way to make it work. July 24, at Was it a turnoff? My advice based on the little that I know is to keep inviting him places and to leave communication open.
You have alot to offer and you deserve a partner who appreciates it. August 2, at He also said that he hopes that I will go back to him eventually. He is very hospitable towards me and we speak for hours on end when we are together.
He does freak out though if he starts getting to close. What do I do? He just seems to be emotionally unattached to himself.