Ah, Elizabeth— every man is still unique, eh? But, hey, definite points for having a mother-in-law who brings you food and does your laundry on occasion!
February 10, at 4: And also you may have grandchildren eventually who will never have a grandfather around. February 11, at 8: You see, there is always a chance of outliving your spouse or one of you losing some kind of physical ability. Sometimes it has to do with age, other times the younger one faces the disabilities or death first. Every couple years he goes through all of his business stuff and tells me what he wants me to do when he dies.
The last time, I responded by going into great detail about what I wanted him to do if I went first and he looked at me cross-eyed. But what comes after life, for the Believer, is more wonderful than this world can ever be. February 11, at 4: The choices we make now will affect us for generations to come.
And yes, I am a Christian and look forward to Heaven! Just following our hearts can lead to disaster and many a heartache. Marriage is such a blessing but it also has its challenges. Why add to the challenges by marrying someone as old as your father? Otherwise I could have fallen for anyone who seemed like a great guy and told me that he loved me.
Which meant, that I would no sooner marry a 50 year old than an 80 year old! It was a short list but it was my guide so I would never be tempted to compromise. And with all the predators around, one has to be cautious about why there is an attraction there. Not trying to bring anyone down or anything though. February 11, at 6: This applies to possible spouses of any age. There are many older women that marry younger men. Some women ARE naturally attracted to older guys.
I appreciated the maturity and stability and yes, wrinkles, of an more cultured man. I think most of the women that like this post will understand that. It was not an arranged marriage, although my parents heartily approved of the match.
He was never married before me. He did not pursue me. He was stable and secure financially, emotionally and spiritually. I was also stable, and was not scrambling for a mate. I was not jumping for the first guy that came along. I had more boundaries in my life than anyone else I knew. The Lord brought us together in a beautiful way, and marrying Marty was the best non-salvational decision I ever made.
I hope this helps you understand. February 13, at 9: It does help me understand a little more. I guess for me I had always been that girl who was never attracted to baby face boys nor the older, wrinkly type.
I mean, would they be okay marrying a 60 or 70 or 80 year old too? Obviously your situation was different and very God and parent honoring. And I can see you two are meant for each other! You have a treasure. My concerns are coming from situations where I have seen older divorced guys seemingly only go after younger, attractive women and it seems to only end in chaos the instances I know of anyway.
February 13, at There are a ton of bad examples of marriage out there. Age is not so much the factor as character flaws in the individuals. It was very easy for Marty and me to relate to each other. Thank you so much for your feedback! I appreciate this conversation. February 10, at