Is Halifax a good city to be single? Depends what you're looking for, say our readers. By Jacob Boon Are you looking for true love, or just a good time? Depending on the answer, Halifax is either a great or terrible place to be single. Dating in this city can be a breezy bacchanal of sexual encounters with an interchangeable roster of gorgeous twenty somethings straight out of a CW drama, or an incestuous cesspool of exes and fuckboys where every new year brings you one more circle down the drain of being forever alone.
You be the judge. The women are beautiful; there is a very active social atmosphere; great variety of women in terms of cultures and interests. It's small enough so meeting people is easy but that's also kind of a bad thing too: Apparently it is a very negative thing to be sexually liberal, but it is also a very negative thing to be sexually repressed.
People seem stuck in limbo and have no idea how they can act upon their sexual desires without being judged. Dates just end up being weird. Everyone knows everyone, and if you haven't slept with someone, your friend or friend's friend or cousin or sister's boyfriend's sister has.
Somehow, friendcest just becomes normal after a while here, though. You're getting somebody's sloppy seconds, and you're somebody's sloppy seconds. Or maybe you're fresh meat, but it's only a matter of time before you've shared. Oh yeah, better get used to being friends with your ex. It's a lot easier that way. I never feel like I'm going to run out of guys to date. Everyone is your age and in the same phase of life as you. That doesn't happen everywhere.
Halifax is also a city that seems to always have something happening. I never feel like there's a shortage of things to do or places to go. There are so many date options, you almost never have to do the same thing twice. The drinking culture of Hali also kinda helps the whole single scene.
People here would rather be in a shitty relationship than try learning to be happy alone. The older you get in Halifax, the harder it is to meet people because everyone has moved away and those left behind are in relationships. Lots of great places to go treat yourself when you're feeling down though! Plus a fresh crop of naive year-old freshman every September. The men my age are either married, or as far away from marriage as humanly possible.
Grown men with the minds of year-old boys. Halifax is small, too. Everyone you meet has fucked at least one of your friends. Or had a finger in there.
Halifax needs more singles events other than the ones on Valentines Day. It feels like the only option is to go out to bars and that just isn't what I'm looking for! It's not big enough to meet any queer guys I haven't already met from working at Menz for two years.
For one-nighters and short-term flings, if you don't mind a host of emotional bullshit, Halifax has you covered. This makes having a partner to explore and familiarize yourself with the only form of adventure.
Then they get hurt and are no good for the next. Even when I was in a relationship. When I was single, I found that meeting people was miserable. I found most guys and girls to be judgmental and critical to anyone who didn't think, look or feel the same as they did. I live in the country now. Everyone is so laid back and anything goes. People don't hate on you for thinking a certain way about things. They talk about it. In short, single in the city sucked. For those who would rather coffee dates and sober brunches, we have a unique array of private coffee-houses, espresso bars and diners to perfectly accompany those awkward first-date silences.
Other city's have such large gay populations but Halifax is a small community where everyone knows everyone. The majority of the good looking men who have their heads screwed on right are taken already.