Telling people you have CF is a personal choice, and you actually do not have to disclose it to every person you meet. With that said, maintaining our health to reduce many of the unwanted CF symptoms means that we have to regularly participate in taking medications, completing treatments, and engaging in good hygiene practices. Because of this, logistically, we have to acknowledge that when we engage in closer, intimate relationships — these people now become part of our support system and ultimately have to learn about and understand what we need to do to maintain healthy outcomes.
There is no specific timeline or rule on including your partner into your medical regimen; however I must emphasize the benefit to you, as well as the relationship of welcoming that person into your support system. It will impact factors such as honesty, openness, ability to welcome supportive assistance, participation in healthy boundaries and assertive communication, as well as engaging in vulnerability and trust.
Tips on how to talk to your new partner about CF: Practice what to say. Engage in practice conversations with your trusted friend s ; ask your friend to be a sounding board about the situation. To avoid fumbling through the conversation uncomfortably, practice giving your friend important facts about CF.
Revealing [too much] too soon may unfortunately define you before your date has gotten a chance to really get to know YOU.
There are recommendations out there, which suggest sharing by the fourth date, merely to deter frustration longevity related to the deal-breaker.
Each individual gets to decide which path they want to take in their dating and intimate partnership vision. It is simply a decision that the individual may have made even prior to being with you.
If it is a deal-breaker, then you will be able to move on to find someone who has not identified this concept as such and ultimately will accept everything about you. Be casual, yet confident. No need to blurt out information related to your diagnosis.
Consider the etiquette of giving at least 24 hours, then reaching out for a response. You can leave a simple voicemail indicating that you have been thinking about them, and you are looking forward to seeing them again. There can be multiple reasons for a rejection—many of which have nothing to do with you at all.
Many people consciously or subconsciously create boundaries, based on previous experiences, such as having difficulty with the loss of a family member whom struggled with illness or their own fear of uncertainty for the potential future of the relationship. I must emphasize that your ideal partner will accept you no matter what.
If things were going well up until the time you told them, keep in mind that they rejected your health condition, not you. At the end of the day, it means that they were not the one.
As you read these tips, I would encourage you to consider applying the same options to any other dilemma you may be experiencing as it is related to when to disclose to your intimate partner. What are some additional recommendations you would consider when choosing to disclose information about your health diagnosis to a new partner?
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