Sophie Saint Thomas What do you call a text message that's flirty, but not yet a sext? Whatever you call them, flirty text messages are the reality for most people dating in And text message flirting can be just as scary as in-person flirting. First off, you need to suss out whether or not your crush is at least mildly interested in you before you blow up their phone. Look into the eyes of the one you are flirting with. Greenberg confirms what many of us already know: More than likely, your crush is into you if they carry on the conversation and respond without too much of a lag time.
At a loss for the words and emojis! I put together some tried-and-true text messages to send when you want to flirt but haven't started sexting yet. But if you're already there, here's how to kick the conversation up a notch. While we're arguably more in control of and confident about our sexuality than ever, there's still so much we don't know about female arousal. So this month, we're exploring everything you want and need to know about how women get turned on now.
Check out more here. Everyone knows why you want them to come over — and it isn't to watch a movie. But what's really great about this one is that it lets your boo know that you want to see them, but still leaves the choice up to them.
If they're into you and don't have any pressing commitments, then there's a good chance that they'll say they can be there asap. Use this one when you've just left your bae-to-be or if you haven't spoken to them in a while.
Either way, it's a smug way to make sure you're on their mind and to let them know that if they don't miss you, then they should. With the holiday season arriving, channel your inner Mariah Carey to let your crush know what you really want this year. Sometimes you just want to cut right to the chase. Own your confidence and let your crush know it's time for a date, ASAP.
Do your research and plan something they're sure to love, and hopefully plenty more dates will follow. Whether or not you're actually super busy, let your crush know that they're on your mind, even when you're supposed to be thinking of something else.
Feel free to follow it up with a compliment — a little flattery never hurt anyone. Use this one when you want to go a little deeper. Share your passions to really get to know your crush on a personal level. This way, you can start establishing a stronger emotional connection and find out all the important things you have in common. Take advantage of the weather turning colder and let your crush know they should come over and cuddle with you. Advertisement Photographed by Sam Nodelman "Just worked out, ready to hit the showers!
A post-workout text is a classic way to get your crush thinking about you in some steamier situations. You might be getting clean, but the conversation doesn't have to be. Find a shared interest to strike up an instant connection with your crush.
Whether it's a sporting event, a new episode of a TV show you love, or an album that just dropped from your favorite artist, spark a natural conversation by connecting over what you have in common.
Looking for an excuse to hang out? Suggest you check out your shared interest together next time. Almost no one can resist the cuteness of an adorable pet Snap which would obviously accompany this text. Let your crush know they're on your mind without the sappiness of a traditional, "I miss you. Sick of an indecisive bae or wanting to break up a monotonous "Netflix and chill" cycle? Send this to someone you've seen a few times to mix things up and get a sense of what they do to have fun.
Let them know you're not taking "I don't know, what do you want to do? It might go without saying, but be sure to send this one along with a perfectly curated selfie. For those of you trying to steer a platonic friendship in a more flirtatious direction, this works best dropped into the middle of a regular conversation. What was once a casual chat about making plans to go thrifting, for example, becomes a cutesy request for your crush's time, and a face they can't refuse.
Giving them something nice to look at certainly won't hurt your chances of landing a date. Advertisement 13 of 30 Photographed by Caroline Tompkins. You should stop by so I can show you off. On the surface, you've got a low-pressure invitation to a group hang out. But you're also slyly suggesting that you're proud to be involved with — or almost involved with — the cutie in question. This text works for already established flirtations, but just as well if your situation isn't quite fully fledged yet.
It's vague enough to keep you both safely in your comfort zones, but it's also relatively platonic though that's open to interpretation. No, your crush might not actually leave their responsibilities behind, but your spontaneity will get them to at least consider it. The fact that you'd brazenly ask them to blow off their day paired with a tongue-in-cheek winking emoji lets them know you'd push boundaries to see them.
Save this for a late-night exchange when you both have each other's full attention. We all know texting into the wee hours of the morning can get pretty open — take a chance and ask your crush to spill. It gives them a way to play the shy card and give in to telling you how badly they want you without feeling too forward hey, you asked. Besides, if they opt for a secret that doesn't lean sexually, that still breeds intimacy.
If you're feeling pretty solid about where you stand with your cutie in question, this message has just the right amount of bordering-on-arrogant spunk to make them blush.
Confidence is attractive — if you're sure of yourself, they will be, too. How can they say no? There's a bit of subtle flattery in dropping that your friends know about them, that they've seen photos, and that they might just approve.
Feel like pushing it a little further? Don't underestimate the power of injecting some sarcasm into your flirting. Adding an eye roll emoji to this text playfully serves as a "don't get a big head" reminder to balance out your compliment so it doesn't read as empty sweet talk.
Advertisement Photographed by Rockie Nolan. With just the right amount of sweet, you're telling your love-to-be that the thought of them makes you a little giddy. Think of this as a slightly subtler version of, "I can't stop thinking about you. They'll be dying to find out. Not only does this let your crush know that you're thinking about them and enjoy spending time with them, but it also gives them an exciting jolt at the anticipation of meeting up again in person preferably sometime soon.
Plus, if you and your crush are in the friend zone, or you aren't going on dates just yet, this hints that you could be looking for more. It also opens the door for them to suggest that you come over, um, maybe later tonight? When you draw your crush's attention to the fact that you're in bed, their mind is bound to wander to not-so-PG thoughts about you in that particular spot.
Plus, you're subtly stroking their ego, since they'll likely ask themselves if you can't sleep because you're thinking of them. Greenberg said, if your crush has been responding to your texts, they're likely interested in you.
Cute and original messages are a very fun way to prolong conversation and build up hot sexual tension. But do you know what's also hot? Cutting the crap and simply asking your crush out. If you're feeling bold, there's often benefit in getting straight to the point. If you send your crush a song that makes you think of them, they'll listen to the track and analyze the lyrics for days. Not only is sending someone a song you enjoy a thoughtful act of flirtation, but music opens the conversation floodgates — it's fun to talk about what you like and don't like.
Maybe your crush will send you a song back. Advertisement Photographed by Bianca Valle. The key to a successful flirty text is constructing one that creates a conversation. While a cute and simple "picturing you naked ; " isn't always in poor taste, it may leave your crush a little confused about how to reply. Even if they're not responding because they're nervous, it doesn't feel good to have a message go unanswered.
By sending this text, you're hinting that you're indeed imagining them in a racy way — but you're keeping things mysterious and opening up a conversation.
After some coy back-and-forth messaging, you might just land a date. Oh, and including a cute selfie with this text won't hurt, either. As Cher in Clueless once said when talking about getting the attention of a crush, "Anything you can do to draw attention to your mouth is good. Your crush will either want to come to wherever you are immediately, or they'll want to plan a pizza date ASAP.
This suggestive message lets your crush know that you're interested in them while also hinting at sex hey, you're telling them about what you do in bed. Don't tell them what happened in the dream so you can keep them guessing and intrigued. And of course, feel free to send this one even if your dream wasn't actually about them. I just got home and am finally relaxing. This is a great text to send in the early stages of a crush or courtship, as it shows you care and are thinking of them, but isn't directly sexual though the "relaxing" bit is certainly suggestive in a good way.
It's a great one to send during the week after you know your crush has had a long day, since most people love to talk about themselves. Plus, it's an open-ended question that encourages conversation, which is always preferable to a "yes or no" answer.
And in this case, that involves talking about how you both like to unwind which is, again, suggestive. I'm busy ; " Why it works: People want what they can't have.