Are they really who they say they are? Are they leaving out important information? These are critical questions to answer. Nowadays, however, there are relatively easy ways to get valuable insights into who a person truly is. If you meet someone online or long distance, you should always pause to consider whether they may be hiding something important from you like criminal records, bankruptcy filings, aliases, social media profiles, and more.
In an ideal world, we should be able to trust the people we care about. Catfishing, bigamy, and other reasons to look up an online love interest Why would you look up an online love? Here are two compelling reasons to background check someone you meet online… Catfishing Have you ever heard of catfishing?
But if your gut is telling you to learn more about them before things get too serious, here are some things you can do.
How To Find Information A full, exhaustive background check can be expensive because it pulls past employment history, credit history, and criminal history—everything an employer would want to know about an employee. Reader tip from Tammy: I even got the VIN number of the car he was driving at the time which was repossessed after I broke it off. Google is a great tool, but please, PLEASE keep in mind how shockingly easy it is to spread false information about someone or slander them online.
Search for social media profiles Make sure you check all the common social media sites Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest. You can search for profiles on Facebook by using names, locations, and even groups like the class of St. Go through their friends list and find the person you are looking for who obviously has the search feature turned off or has changed their name slightly on FB. I had a guy last week tell me he was a widower with two small children living in the states.
You then look to see what their friend list is like…males and females or just females. Look to see when their posts were made. All over the last month or last week or have they been active for a year or more.
More than one pic in their profile? Look at who is liking their posts. His were all liked by Nigerian friends. They are even contacting people in online Scrabble games now.
Look them up on LinkedIn In addition to social media profiles, check them out on LinkedIn to get a view from a slightly different angle.
Run a reverse image search Before you spend too much time chasing rabbit trails on Google or searching social media sites, run a reverse image search on any images your significant other has sent to you, including their profile picture on dating profiles or their email account. Save a copy of their profile photo to your computer Go to images.
However, criminal records are recorded and filed differently depending on local laws. If you know the county or state your partner lives in, you may be able to view portions of their criminal history online. You can even narrow your search down by different counties and case types, such as criminal or traffic cases. If your search comes up dry, it might be because the courthouse does not maintain an online criminal records database. In that case, you may have to pay a small administrative fee to request the documents in person.
Stud Or Dud bills itself as the first free background app. Once a user creates a free account, they can do background checks on people they know who live in the US. If you can find the profile and I found most people I tested this out on you can often see the address of the person, along with their age, who they are related to, and the existence of any criminal convictions. You can tap on a result to bring up more details, including a partial phone number, their likely marital status, previous addresses, and even the likely worth of any property they own!
Keep in mind that these sites usually charge a fee to access information. Is your significant other lying about their age? Are they hiding aliases or nicknames? Does their background report include arrest records that give you pause? A public records search could reveal everything you want to know—or give you priceless peace of mind.
Would you ever look up your partner? Have you ever discovered something shocking about a person you met online? Share your story or additional DIY background check tips in the comments.
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