Aug 6, 1. My boyfriend is a grown 36 year-old man who lives fearfully of his own mother. She is nothing but sweet and happy-go-lucky…usually.
But if he is too busy to run an errand for the family or if he passes up on a higher-paying job, we all better make a run for it before getting an earful.
That being said, Oma is the most generous woman and is just about the best cook on the planet. If you have an Oma in your life, consider yourself lucky. Somehow, though, I always persevere. Koreans now how to party. The only downside to kimchee is the way its pungent, fishy smell permeates the entire house upon opening the fridge. Having a Korean boyfriend means having a jar of kimchee at the ready to accompany any meal. Being spoiled is not always a bad thing. Thought about splitting dish duty?
He has other ideas. Life goes back in time slightly when he expects you to be the domestic goddess of his dreams, not-so-quietly reminding you of how spoiled you really are…thanks to him. Every time we sit down to eat, an all-out feast ensues. Watch Oma as she smears gochujang across her lettuce, piles on some white rice, spicy pork after dipping it in the oil, of course and a piece of kimchi, rolls it up and firmly shoves it into her mouth.
Now, do the same. Get used to eating feasts almost any time you get together — from Korean barbeque to cold bowls of naeng myun on a hot day. Your Korean boyfriend loves you. He pays the bills, and hell, he has even taken you to meet Oma. Even so, more and more you find yourself eating every meal on the floor, hiding money in the mattress, and eating rice at every meal. Korean guys love their soap operas. The thicker the plot, the better.
Bonus points for plots that include family drama and love stories. I think that covers just about every Korean soap opera out there. Korean guys can be a little bossy and controlling, but we see where that might come from Oma, perhaps? Koreans are expert no-bullshitting communicators, so be prepared and enter with a thick skin — or else.
Koreans have super high expectations for themselves and for you. They want to succeed and want nothing more for you to succeed by their side. Sure Korean men ogle women as much as the next guy, but they are extremely loyal. They might even ask you to pick out their outfits every time you go on a date.