My high school coach taught sex ed. Keep it in your pants. Yet, we are all supposed to somehow know all about it. And, we succumb to societal pressure to pass white glove tests at all times of the day.
At Magnet, we are asked a lot about how to douche safely. But to be real, no one wants to leave a crime scene on their partner. Use the right water. If you douche too often with tap water, you can cause an electrolyte imbalance that using normal saline would prevent. And absolutely do not use olive oil, bleach, alcohol, or anything else that you find under your kitchen sink.
These will cause significant harm to your butt. So what about tap water? Your body maintains a delicate balance of electrolytes to function normally. If you use the wrong liquid, you can cause imbalances that harm your body. You can get this stuff in a saline Fleet enema or you can also make normal saline at home by combining a half teaspoon of salt with a cup of water.
And while you are pouring the water, be sure to check the temperature. The mucosal lining of your intestines and colon is much more sensitive to temperature than the skin on the outside of your body. Test the water temperature first with your hand and turn down the temperature until it feels lukewarm.
Then turn the temperature down just a bit more. Get the right equipment. OK, you got the right water and the right temperature. Now how are you getting it up your butt? Here are the options I know about—and my recommendations for each. These are your best bets for safe douching.
Fleet enemas come in multiple versions so be sure to get the one that just has normal saline in it. They also have pre-lubricated nozzle tips which is less likely to cause tearing or other damage. The volume is also smaller so you are less likely to overdo it. Nothing says that you are prepared to bottom more than installing a hose on your shower to rinse out your butt.
These require you to be extra careful with your douching. It is very easy to have the water pressure on too high or have the water too hot. If you choose this option, be very careful. It is also very easy to have the water too hot, which can burn your insides. These have a reusable rubber bulb that you can fill up with your home made normal saline.
They are convenient but many of them have a hard plastic nozzle. Use lubricant on the nozzle for safer insertion. This may sound strange but some guys use a baby mucous sucker to douche. They are similar to the anal douche bulb but they actually are a bit better because the tip of the nozzle is softer and more flexible than that of an anal douche bulb.
Get your butt ready. There are two rings of muscles in your butt. The external muscles you can control and relax on your own, but the internal sphincter only loosens up if it senses pressure.
So take a finger, lube it up, and loosen up your butt before you try to push anything up there. Lube it before you stick it. While you have that lube out for your finger, be sure to lube up the nozzle of whatever you are putting up your butt. The anal douche and shower shot are generally hard nozzles that can easily cause tearing if you are not careful.
And remember that unlike your ex, the shower shot can do a good job without going in. Pushing a stiff nozzle into your rectum without lube can cause ripping and tearing. Not only will that be painful, it can increase your risk for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections.
If you irritate the lining of your mucosal membranes in your colon, white blood cells the kind of immune cells that HIV preferentially infects congregate in the area to help repair your body.
So if you are exposed to HIV there i. You are not that kind of catcher. The amount of water than an enema bulb can hold is sufficient.
Stick it in and do it. Putting yourself in the right position can make it easier to insert the nozzle. Stand in front of the toilet and put your dominate leg up on the toilet. After loosening up your butt with a lube finger like a good top, slowly insert the lubed douche nozzle. Squeeze the bulb to slowly squirt in the liquid. Pull out the nozzle. Even if you douche with the right water, the right temperature, and the right equipment, you can damage the lining in your butt that can put you at higher risk for getting an infection from your partner.
There is no magic number of times that makes douching unsafe. But if you can, limit yourself to once a day and only days per week. Give yourself time before sex. Allow some time for all the water you squirted inside yourself to come back out and stay close to a toilet while you wait. Use this time to clean up your place, take your PrEP or your HIV meds, or get your lube and condoms if they are part of your sexual health plan. Other bulking agents are OK.
Other bulking agents like fiber supplements are OK to take. If you have loose stools or diarrhea, fiber supplements can help. Be reasonable — remember, poop happens!